Quote from: Maggie Kay on June 24, 2008, 06:18:10 PM
After a while, I spotted a store clerk staring at me around the corner of the display. I glanced at him and went back to my deliberations. A few minutes later, I heard "Sir, ahhh, Sir" but didn't respond as I don't respond to that anymore and barely heard it anyway. ... Then I heard "ahhh, Ma'am" and I immediately turned to face the clerk. He said, "sorry" then asked me if I needed help. I said I didn't and he left. He clearly was watching me to see if I was shoplifting. It stung to be clocked like that. I was wearing my new knitted shell over a cream colored turtle neck top and jade necklace with matching dangle earrings. I was also wearing a dark green suede cloth jacket and dark teal slacks.
I wore black flats as my shoes. So with full makeup long female style hair and glasses and all that I still got read. OUCH. Oddly, about ten minutes later, I was looking at binders in another part of the store when another clerk came over and immediately said "Need any help, Ma'am" so that made me feel better.
OK, I've waited on this, because I think I may have a different take than what's been posted so far. Except this bit: Maggie
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I'm sorry it hurt you.
BUT, to tell the truth, Maggie.
I don't think you got clocked at all. He was behind you and peering from behind a display. You were dressed in clothes that are simply uni-gendered and you're tall and older than he I would assume.
Then when he actually got around you he apologized and 'ma'amed' you and left, probably embarrassed at himself. Probably for thinking you may have been shoplifting, but definitely for thinking you were 'male.'
I imagine, having worked in retail years ago, that if he'd have really thought you were shoplifting he wouldn't have excused himself completely, but would have remained in the area. His embarassment at his original mis-gendering sent him fleeing.
So, I doubt he was a 'clown' at all.
I understand the emotional content behind your thoughts and those of Sandy and Kate quite well. But, I have also come to understand that many fewer people than we imagine mis-gender us. I think the majority of worries in things like that are our own senses that we might stand out somehow. So, every chance we get we decide we do or did.
I think you had one very embarrassed young sales clerk who fled from you -- not a 'clocker' at all.
Well, that's my read.
Sorry that it made you feel unsure and hurt.
But, I think it was truly evidence that you do, indeed, blend.
Nichole