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OMG Did I really just come out to my MOM???

Started by sneakersjay, July 02, 2008, 06:26:38 PM

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sneakersjay

July 02, 2008, 06:26:38 PM
I did.

She twisted my arm (well, not literally, it was over the phone).  So I told her.  She didn't react the way I thought at all (though that could be coming after she's thought about it).  She asked a few questions, which I answered.  Was I sure?  Yes.  Am I happy?  About being trans?  No.  About being my self and comfortable in my own skin? Yes.

We talked for like 2 hours and it was all good (so far).

Fingers crossed!!

Jay


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Janet_Girl

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July 02, 2008, 06:35:30 PM
Total awesome Jay Sweety,
One down a million more to go ;D

Janet
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funnygrl

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July 02, 2008, 09:24:46 PM
Sweet!!! OK, now have u'r mom call my mom and explain it all to her and...that'll be great!!!

Seriously, Congrats!!!! I can only hope that mine will be as understanding.
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DeValInDisguise

#5
July 02, 2008, 09:49:05 PM
Congrats Jay!  Awesome that your mom seems so cool with it.
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vanna

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July 03, 2008, 07:59:53 AM
Hi jay

im so happy for you and totally jealous at the same time :P

i saw my mum coming out of the supermarket this morning and had to ask her what kind of gp the new female doc i have at our local surgery was like.

Im after an offical refferal to Dr curtis in london, i know its not needed but its supposed to be preffered :P anyway when she asked why i just said i had big issues that needed private help and i need a refferal, the feeling of telling her was so strong i had to just jump in the car and go.

I know she loves me dearly but im terrified still of the thought so im always just so proud and impressed of all of you who have that courage to say something.

well done and hope you can keep posting on how its working out.

Vanna

p.s maybe funnygrl has a point, we can organise a mums phone around and get it all out in the open for anyone who needs it, works like a pyramid scheme without the money so every mum can phone two other mums and so on.
it could just work :)
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Kate

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July 03, 2008, 11:00:17 AM
Quote from: sneakersjay on July 02, 2008, 06:26:38 PM
She twisted my arm (well, not literally, it was over the phone).  So I told her.  She didn't react the way I thought at all (though that could be coming after she's thought about it).  She asked a few questions, which I answered.  Was I sure?  Yes.  Am I happy?  About being trans?  No.  About being my self and comfortable in my own skin? Yes.

We talked for like 2 hours and it was all good (so far).

Wow Jay, that's fantastic! Congratulations!

How did you think she'd react?

After my mom thought about it for a few days, she came back with the usual doubting questions...

"How come I never saw any signs?"

"Why'd you get married then?"

"I saw on TV that sex changes don't work. Why are you doing this then?"

"Does this mean you're gay?"

Sounds like your mom is pretty cool though, and hopefully she'll become even MORE supportive once she ponders things a bit!

~Kate~
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MaggieB

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July 03, 2008, 11:06:51 AM
Jay,
Congratulations on a huge milestone passed! I have always been so happy after important people in my life are told and we move on to life. The keeping a secret part is so very difficult.
BTW, I'm waiting to hear that my 94 year old mother finds out from my mother-in-law. My SO told her two days ago in a phone conversation ( the first in twenty years). In the conversation, her mother told her that she talks to my mother. I haven't spoken to her for twenty years too. So now every time the phone rings I wonder.
Maggie
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sneakersjay

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July 03, 2008, 11:11:33 AM
My mom is really religious and says a lot of "Praise the Lord!"s.  She has never said anything positive about gays/lesbians, not that we talk about that but in her mind they are sinners/freaks/what have you.  She started to say something about Thomas Beattie that was not flattering but I was in the middle of another sentence and kind of cut her off.  Bottom line is she's not very well informed on current issues and still for most things lives in the past,  and has refused to educate herself on something as simple as homeschooling (my kids are homeschooled).  So trans issues are a huge departure from her world.  Mine, too, except I get to live it, LOL.

I had a lot to do to educate myself, because if you had asked me even six months ago if I were a transsexual I would have emphatically declared NO!!!  mostly because of the stereotypical images I had of transpeople and because I truly did not know what it meant.  Until I discovered that transsexual was the term that described what was wrong with me my whole life.

So, I'm going to see her today, and we'll see if she's still understanding or whether she has the Come To Jesus! speech with me.

Jay


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glendagladwitch

#10
July 03, 2008, 04:25:39 PM
Good luck, Jay.  We're really pulling for you.
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jenny_

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July 04, 2008, 12:50:13 AM
Yay, Jay (wow it rhymes!) thats so great to hear about your mum, and well done for telling her!  :)

Maybe your mum isn't saying anything against transitioning because she really does love you and truely wants you to be happy, and thats far more important to her than any preconceptions she has of transsexuals or any religious views she has?

Or maybe she does have a point.
I think homeschooling is far more bizarre than being trans!  :P
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