Alicia,
I think this site is for the transgendered and significant others thereof. Is that right? I'm not sure. But, presuming that is the case, then we do not exclude anyone on the basis of sexual orientation. Nor do we exclude men. I think we might exclude someone who is not at all transgendered or a significant other of someone who is transgendered, even though they happen to be a straight man.
But It sounds to me like both you and wife might be androgynes, and therefore transgendered. Plus, if that is the case, each of you is the significant other of a transgendered person. So I think you and your spouse are each welcome on two counts. That makes you doubly welcome I believe.
