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Started by Anisha, March 16, 2025, 07:59:37 PM

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deviousxen

Been there, done that.... Never again. I got one of my friends to remind me who I am as much as possible. It tends to sober me up and make more of the thick glass in my head crack and leak more. It needs to be hit a lot... D":
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Alena43

I almost completely purged all of my female clothes a month ago, in fact went as far as to put everything on Ebay and try to sell them, but nothing was selling for anything closr to what I had paid for it some of my heels, boots were brand new as well as some of my clothes. I then cancelled all of the auctions. I was at one of those points of making a another decsion about continuing to transition. I had decided that I was going to stop for the sake of my son and that if I had alll those female clothes around it would be that much harder.

I then realized that those clothes were are part of who I truly am and I couldn't get rid of them. I then went on ebay and bought more.

It's been a crazy up and down rollercoaster, transition, don't transition until my sons 18. I know this is off topic and I am sorry, but right now is very difficuly for me. I just had surgey on my right foot and ankle and I can't drive, don't have a lot friends to take me places, so I have ton of time on my hands. I was somewhat ok with waiting to transition when my son turned 18, because I was busy everyday and didn't have time to think about it. I've been laid up for two weeks and I stuill have four more to go on crutches. I can't eben get to see my therapist, no way to get there, bus stop is to far away to get to on crutches.

Anyways that is enough whining out of me. Again I am sorry to get so far oof the topic. I just needed to get this off my chest.

Hugz to all,
Ariana
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Case

I am a huge pack rat, so it is very unlikely that I will ever really purge everyhing, maybe a few things here and there to make space, but not all at once.  :-*
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Natalie W

I've never purged anything, but only because up until recently I had nothing to purge.  I can point to a few times where, had I had anything, I would have almost certainly purged.  Even now that do have clothes of my own, the only thing close to purging that I've done is getting rid of a few less-than-satisfactory items.  I'm looking forward to when I can purge all my male clothing
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tekla

That I don't think a cross-dresser is as likely to purge as a True TS Person.

I wouldn't be so sure of that.  First, since there is no end point, no goal, lots of CDs think they can just get rid of it and ignore it.  Second I think that CDs feel a lot more guilt.  Third, I think that because the focus is almost exclusively on clothing, the CD may well have more to purge.
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Kate

Quote from: Anisha on March 16, 2025, 07:59:37 PM
Does transexual purge???or only crossdressers purge?
For what it's worth: Do transsexuals purge?

~Kate~
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femmebutt

It's a good question. I wonder why you ask. It would seem anyone in conflict with any behavior might purge the things associated with that behavior. Ever have to replace a sex toy purge? That's an expensive one!
Sometimes it seems to me that categories are not very useful.
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cindianna_jones

Quote from: Anisha on March 16, 2025, 07:59:37 PM
Does transexual purge???or only crossdressers purge?

With Regards,
Anisha

Almost everyone has from time to time. I did many times. I hated myself for being a self diagnosed pervert.

Cindi
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StrykerXIII

I've tried, but my fiancee always gives me the "spent too much money on that to throw it out" lecture.  ::) go figure.
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When the Stryker fires, all turn to dust in its wake.
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Damara

I've never accrued enough stuff to purge ever.. but never felt a desire to either.. If I suddenly purged now I'd have to be running about naked! lol!
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nolwenn.perret

Did that too many times, and once I finally started to accept who I am, someone wanted me to turn back to boy after 2 years on hrt... (yeah my belongings have been thrown away without my agreement...)
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pollypagan

Twice. Guilt is a powerful force. It solved nothing.
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ImagineKate

#32
I purged once during my teens. Never again.

Only reason I purged was the fear of getting caught.
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awilliams1701

I have MOST of my male stuff in a box. For some reason I'm not quite ready to get rid of them, but I want nothing to do with their contents at the moment.
Ashley
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Isabelle

Quote from: carol_w on July 25, 2008, 10:39:56 AM
Anisha,
We all purge (crossdressers and transsexuals alike)

Nope. Not true. 
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Isabelle

Quote from: Anisha on March 16, 2025, 07:59:37 PM
Does transexual purge???or only crossdressers purge?

With Regards,
Anisha

Your question is far too blunt to get any meaningful response but.... I'm bored so I'm going to give it a go.

There is arguably only one kind of person that is "transsexual" because,  that word is a medical diagnosis. Cross dresser on the other hand is much harder to define. You can't really ask is purging a cross dresser only phenomenon because there are different motivations for cross dressing. A lot of cross dressers are sexually motivated. They have a paraphilic fetish, just like any number of other fetishists out there.  Others cross dress for other reasons. I personally believe the term "cross dresser" is a bit like using a chain saw when you need a scalpel. I dont think any question that opens with an implied relationship between two different phenomenon is going to yield helpful answers.
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Emileeeee

I've lost count of how many times I've purged. Each time I wish I hadn't purged, I go further towards transition. Today I spent all day looking up what I need to do to start a RLE in my state. There aren't many ways to get closer to transition than that, so I'd expect my next purge to be of the male clothes.
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Jean24

Purging is kind of a strange concept, it seems backwards to me. I'm not even going to buy anything until I can pass and when I do, there's no way I'm going to feel guilty about supposedly cross dressing and just get rid of all of my new stuff! Technically a trans person can't even cross dress until their gender is set since cross dressing requires you to be one gender dressing as another.
Trying to take it one day at a time :)
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judithlynn

#38
Yes and Yes

Prior to transitioning full time (especially when I thoughT I was a cross dresser , I probably purged a couple of times. Then when I transitioned into a full time female role, two cis girlfriends purged all my male clothes, even having a dinner where they shredded my last set of male pair of trousers one night with a pair of scissors. I seemed to remember the three of us got quite tipsy that night. I remember Aison saying that for next six months I only want to see you in a dress or skirt - not women's pants or jeans. I was very good and 6 months later Alison & Maggie celebrated again by going shopping with me and buying me some tight skinny jeans and womens denim shorts as well as my first bikini!

When I was forced to de-transition two years later , due to financial and family pressures, I always knew that one day the dysphoria would bit again (and of course it did), so I took out one of those storage spaces and locked everything up, vowing to always think twice or three times before I was mentally tempted or forced back by a resurgence of my dysphoria.  Over the years yes it cost me a bit, but when compared to constantly  buying clothes, make up, shoes etc , purging then buying again over and over , it was a lot cheaper and the best  way forward. Also because it took a real effort to unpack stuff and get access this in itself was a sort of control. In the end of course I am now back into a slow transition again, but now HRT  has taken much more of a hold and I am almost at that threshold of Male fails and more often being seen almost 100% as female. So these days I dress about 80% of my time as a woman and pretty much pass 100%. Mind you the extensive Lasaser and Electrolysis has helped plus having No Adams Apple, Small hands and small feet plus sloping shoulders has helped a lot.
:-*
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katrinaw

I've purged quite a few times, loosing thousands of hard earned money... and then I did not have the amount and costs of what I own these days  ::) ... hmm maybe an inventory is needed  >:-) naa just kidding

Actually thinking about it kinda makes me sad, the fact that I felt I had too, although one was for a supposedly good reason, moved out to Australia... wish I hadn't purged then...  :P

L Katy  :-*
Long term MTF in transition... HRT since ~ 2003...
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