Crossdressing In College

[Matthew M.]

Hi, 

Last year, I joined and made a long post basically describing my history as a crossdresser. 

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,21357.msg160544.html#msg160544

As of now, a year later, I feel the need to do it again.  This month, I started school and this time, in a university.  The thing is, my roommate, an RA who was supposed to show up, never did.  Because of this, I've had the apartment to myself for two weeks and likely to have it at least until next week when they replace him with a new roommate.  I suppose that, due to being alone, the thoughts of wanting to dress up fully (which would be a first for me) around my apartment and experiment is something that has been in my head a lot lately.  But is it something wise to do, given my environment?  Am I taking a risk, still?  And if not, I also have fears of buying clothes.  I suppose I could order online, but I also have fears of having it delivered here.  I guess that this is something I really want to do again with the urge getting really strong again, but I thought I'd ask you lovely people whether it's a smart choice and whether I'm taking any risks here. 

Thanks! 

[barbie]

For your sencond question, I think purchasing women's clothes would not cause any problem to you.

For the first question, I think it is not an easy one to answer It would depend on people near you. If you seek a career there, all of your personality, not just CDing, could matter. University is a rather liberal space, and  you are young and young people accept well.

I would suggest slow changes. Step-by-step. After looking responses of others, you may think about the next step.

Barbie~~

[Eva Marie]

Some of this depends on your new roommate and how they would feel about rooming with a crossdresser. Living together in a tight space tends to reveal a lot about each other. So in spite of how careful you are your roommate happens to find a pair of panties in the wash (or some other evidence of your crossdressing). Could be an issue, might not be. I'd say go for it, but try to be very careful with it.

[tekla]

I don't think that my roommate ever found anything in my wash, he never went near it. 

It sounds like you have a safe space, remember its going to be hard to stroll down the hall, so be prepared for the duration.  As for clothes, go to a salvation army/goodwill and go shopping for dresses and skirts.  And go the the mall and go to VS or some other large store and buy some other stuff.  You might feel everyone is watching you, they are not.  Men buy sexy stuff as gifts all the time. 

[Louise]

Many college and university campuses are open and accepting places but many are not.  If you are new to the University I would wait to see what the attitudes on campus are like.  Crossdressing in the privacy of your own room is one thing, but doing this in public is another.  While there is nothing wrong with crossdressing you do not want to run into some intolerant redneck either.

[gennee]

I don't know the name of the university you are attending but get acclimated to the college scene first. As Louise stated, some campuses are open and some are not.

I don't see why you cannot purchase woemn's clothing online or in person.

Gennee   

[Lyric]

I think you really need to get an apartment of your own off campus. That might mean long hours at a part time job, but living with an arbitrarily chosen roommate doesn't sound like a good idea. You are who you are. You have special needs. The college may have liberal policies, but the students come from the populous at large. It's difficult enough starting college as it is even without the duel identity hassle. You need to design a workable lifestyle for yourself.

[MarySue]

Are you living in a dorm? You mentioned that your missing roommate was an RA, which usually means Resident Advisor in a dorm.

Dorms are pretty public places. Everybody is in everybody else's room. It seems unlikely that you could keep your crossdressing, or your female wardrobe, secret for very long. And if your roommate is an "advisor," then you'll have students -- probably freshmen -- stopping by at all hours for advice. How would a scared and confused kid, who's away from home for the first time, react if they saw you dressed? What if one of them complained to his or her parents??

So until you have a good idea of what your life is going to be like, and how tolerant the university is, I suggest you take it slow.

[tekla]

It seems to me in a room without a roommate, lock the door and pretend you're at the bar, better yet, do it when everyone else is at the bar.