Transgender "Second Coming Out" question

[Natasha]

Transgender "Second Coming Out" question

http://www.tsroadmap.com/notes/index.php/site/comments/transgender_second_coming_out_question/#When:15:42:00Z
Andrea James
7/25/2008

In recent months I have been thinking about an aspect of my life,
of which I can find very little information on the Net, and was
wondering if this is something you have discussed much within the
transgendered community. Having transitioned in 2003, I find now that
my transsexual background is a complete non-issue. "Great!" most
people would say, and I feel very lucky to be in this position. I am
never asked about my background, it is never hinted at, and I never
bring it up with those who don't know me as a close friend. However, I
find myself feeling very guarded when in conversation with people who
never knew me pre-transition. I am told by close friends that I am
much more chatty, open, light-hearted, etc, when amongst people who
know of my background. I recognise that I feel much more interactive
and happy when I know the other person knows. It's like I then have a
license to be myself.

[Stealthgrrl]

I find this very frustrating and hard to reconcile. On the one hand, I don't feel I owe anybody my history at this point. But on the other, I don't like trading one secret for another.

I don't know what the solution is, but sometimes it just makes me feel so weary.

Stealth