Been thinking about FFS lately...

[IsabelleStPierre]

Greetings Everyone,

Well lately I have been giving a lot of thought to FSS and other things I would like to get done. Luckily I never really developed many masculine traits like an Adam's Apple or strong brow line, but yet there are still some things I think I want to change. Lately that list of things seems to be growing too. I am posting a picture for myself for reference...

Little ol' me taken July 8, 2008

While this picture doesn't show it, my noses profile needs to change. I also want to bring my hairline forward more then it is now, and have been thinking I want to change my jaw line too.

I just don't know. Everyone I talk to thinks I am crazy for even thinking of FSS given that I pass without any problems what so ever; my therapist was shocked when I even brought the topic up with her in the past. That of course got me to wondering if the problem isn't really with my face but rather that in my eyes I still see the old me if that makes any sense. Oh well...just doing some soul searching on the matter at the moment...

[Nero]

you look like any other GG. yes, you're nuts. you don't need anything done. i think you will mess yourself up if you do anything to your face. you DO NOT want to look like you had work done. that makes people scrutinize more. you look like any other attractive blonde woman. leave your face alone. it's insecurity making you even think about this.

[je]

Consider yourself lucky that you don't look like me. I have a bad brow problem.

[annajasmine]

You look pretty to me. I remember seeing your profile in a picture a long time ago it look fine. Anyways if you want to get something done genetic girls get stuff done all the time to feel better. So I wouldn't feel bad about having surgery but IMO it is not necessary for you unless you just want it done.


Anna

[Beyond]

Here I go again....


FFS is a personal choice.  We all need to do what we need to be happy.  And for some people like you and me that means FFS.  I say you and me because I blended well enough before FFS too.  But what other people thought didn't help with my facial dysphoria.  I had never liked my image from puberty onward.  FFS was tool for me to look more like I should have.  It was a success for me as I look like a cross betwen my Mom and sister now.  The ghost in the mirror is gone.  I may be plain looking, but I'm a plain looking female now.  FTR my FFS was almost 3 years ago and I have never regretted doing it; it was the best money I ever spent.


Do what you gotta do.  Don't listen to what others think because:

1. Only you have to live with you 24 hours a day.

2. Pictures rarely tell the whole story.


Be You, whatever that is for you.


Good Luck!

[TamTam]

I think you should do whatever makes you feel comfortable about the way you look.  You could have everyone you meet telling you you're gorgeous, but if you don't believe them, it doesn't matter much.  What matters is what you see, and what you want. That said.. I think you have a really cute chin/jaw line.

If you go get a consultation done, they might tell you you don't need much done at all.  If they do do anything, it'd probably be very subtle since anything you want changed wouldn't have to be changed a whole lot.  Which means, I don't think it would wind up messing up your face or anything.  That only really happens when people go overboard and the surgeon doesn't stop it.

[IsabelleStPierre]

Greetings Everyone,

I have been giving this a lot of thought since I posted this thread a couple of days ago and I must say I am still...um...dang...unsure is perhaps the best word to describe it. I believe that the issue isn't really with my face per say, but rather how i have been preserving myself lately, if that makes any sense. Recent events tend to lead me to believe it is psychological in nature...

Last night I went out with a tgirl friend who is still not living 24/7 and is a bit insecure (like we have no idea how that feels) about venturing out into public. This have been going well for her lately and so when I came into town for the weekend I gave her a call to see if she wanted to get together to celibate her recent run of good luck. She decided she wanted to go out a Cindy to a couple of the local casino's where she is only known as her male-self, so off we went to the casino's for the evening. She had a blast and I always love being able to go out with friends and help them to become more comfortable within themselves...but I digress...

I am not much of a gambler to be honest, so while she sat at the Blackjack table I wandered around the casino taking it all in. Now I had seemed to have catch the eyes of almost anything with XY chromosomes in the place. I was dressed in a nice summer dress (I have a thing for dresses, skirts, and ultra feminine attire) and this strapy little dress could be classified as a mini-dress. Anyway, I was aware of the attention and as I was working my way back to the Blackjack table where Cindy was playing, this guy came up and politely tapped my shoulder...turning...
"Hi," he started.
"Hello," I responded politely.
"I just had to tell you that you are the best looking woman I have ever seen."
OK, ya it was a come on line but he had been following me around the casino for over half an hour...
"Thank you," I responded, "buy a girl a drink?"

So I spent my evening sitting on a stool in the bar having drinks with a number of gentlemen; mind you I wasn't buying either. This is actually nothing new for me either, so...this tends to lead me to believe that my problems are in my mind...

I was always the "pretty boy" growing up...a polite way of saying "feminine boy". For me every time I look in the mirror I still only see "me" if that makes sense. Ug! I just don't know...need to think some more on this and my next therapist appointment is 2 weeks off yet.....

[Virginia87106]

Of course I agree that you look beautiful and very feminine, but from my personal experience I also know that if something about your looks really bugs you in a gender dysphoric way, it is very hard to come to a place of being satisfied unless you take action.

My opinion is unless you have a very high forehead or a receding hairline and are over 40 years of age, it is best to attack the hair with finasteride first, not surgery.

As far as the nose and the jaw, I just had a rhinoplasty and a chin implant (which also changed my jaw) and I love the result and so do all my friends and family.  You can have both of these procedures from soft tissue cosmetic surgeons close to where you live, there is not reason to go to the trans popular surgeons who all charge more $$ and are usually a long way from where you live.If you do not need a facelift, which it does not look like you do, it will cost about $7000 for both procedures.

I wish you the best of luck in making a decision that is right for you.

[deniz]

you are totally passable.100%
however you can become prettier by just making 2 steps
nose jop
and cheek implants.And you will look fabulous.
you are pretty already.but sometimes, very pretty is our goal;)