Not to sure of this...

[Terra]

I know this has been asked before, but I wonder at the numbers. So are you happy being trans? Some have openly said yes, some have said no way. So please vote and post why, its for science!

I personally voted the 'its ok' because I seriously wonder how different my life would be if I hadn't. Looking at my sister I wonder if I would have grown up as open minded about the world, or if I would have been as strong as I am now. Probably not, and while I am happy at the kind of person I am becoming I can't help but feel cheated out of my childhood. But who knows, maybe it will make sense someday. But if I ever get a chance to do it over with my memories and experiences intact, i'm going 100% female baby!

[JonasCarminis]

lol i know wha you mean angel.  i am happy i am the way i am because of experiences and stuff.  i wouldnt be the same without it and i think this way makes me the best off mentally that i could be.  however, if i could turn out the exact same way but been born a geetic male, it would be pretty much exactly how i want my life.

[Nero]

I voted 'neutral' because I'm not really sure. In a way I like being trans because I wouldn't be me if I wasn't and I like me.

[cindybc]

I ticked off I Definitely, I couldn't think of being anything else.
For me, you're darn right it was a scary proposition, but then, I had only two choices: go ahead and transition or do away with myself.

I certainly am grateful I picked the transition one. I would never have met this wonderful girl with the sunny and humorous attitude, well most times anyway. Even if I had a lot of learning and growing as well as getting a few lumps along the way, I was always ready and willing to help pull out an others backside out of the fire or point out how they could  find their own way. What can you expect from a retired social worker?  I also find myself wondering if I truly made a difference in another's life. I believe we all do have an influence on others, just not so readily noticed for the most part.

Cindy   

[shanetastic]

"I can think of worse things"

[sd]

I think where you are in transition will have a great effect on your views of it.

[Krystal]

I think where you are in transition will have a great effect on your views of it.

I agree Leslie. I voted neutral for the same reason Nero did. I am not sure and being TS is definitely not making my life any easier right now. However I hope as I get further into transition I will feel more positive about it.

[Beyond]

I didn't vote.  Being "trans" may be an identity for some, but not me.  I'm a woman with an unusual medical history.

[Beyond]

. . . .and have to wonder still if indeed I ever will.

Yea, rub it in Beyond! Very easy to say:

"Biography:  Post transition"

That's only in my profile so people here know where I'm coming from.  You have to admit it can get confusing here sometimes when you have no idea of a persons status.  That said I do have to update that profile....


Edit: Okay I've dumped most of the information in my profile, only 3 bits left.  Can't say how long I'm going to stick around Susan's, this is the last forum I actually post on anymore.

[Janet_Girl]

I checked off I Definitely, I couldn't think of being anything else.  Except maybe that if I was born female, but if I have to be something it is the best choice, I guess.

It will work for now, but I will not be 'Trans' all my life.  The day will come when I can say truly 100% woman.  For now it describes my mind/body conflict

Mistress Janet

[trapthavok]

"Definitely!!!!!!"

Dude, I am so much happier finally knowing who I am and being who I am.

When I first began this journey I thought of things like that. "Things would have been so much easier for me growing up/life would have been so much happier had I grown up as a bio male."

One of my new mottos though is I try not to dwell on the past like I used to, and simply look forward to the future. Everyday I wake up as who I was always meant to be even though I'm not in the body my mind is congruent with, and I am a much happier person than I ever was. I couldn't ever see myself not being trans.

[soldierjane]

"Being trans" as in "finding out who you really are" or as in a person whose inner gender doesn't match their sex? On the first count yes, on the second no.

I ticked "It's ok, but I'd rather not be", which means that given the choice I'd have preferred being born GG. Being trans, at the price of much pain, forces us to learn to question the established, to not dread movement from our station in life and to seek out our own happiness. Our pursuit makes us wiser. This is the best feature about being trans that I can think of.

[NicholeW.]

It would have been much less problem had the bits been right from the git-go. I voted "ok," but I do not identify as "trans."

N~

[cindybc]

Hi Soldierjane, you are a beautiful looking lady to start with, nit picking aside, we are who we feel our inner selves to be, and if we look the part on the outside, then that is a bonus. I do so agree with your post bellow.
 

I ticked "It's OK, but I'd rather not be", which means that given the choice I'd have preferred being born GG. Being trans, at the price of much pain, forces us to learn to question the established, to not dread movement from our station in life and to seek out our own happiness. Our pursuit makes us wiser. This is the best feature about being trans that I can think of.

Hi Beyond, if your Avatar is a real photo of you, you are one gorgeous looking lady, realy, I would kill for a head of hair like that. Well not literally, I couldn't even kill a bug.

As for my choice, I certainly would have much prefer to be born GG and lived my life as a GG instead of being on the side lines eating my heart out for most of my life wishing I could live as one.  Well I did the next best. I hung around other women at least as much as I was allowed to, well, without making a nuisance of myself. I helped change diapers, and done a lot of babysitting, had 11 children in my care at one time or another through my life. The last ones was five years ago, one girl two boys. Went shopping with the ladies helped them pick out what clothes to wear. picked out and bought clothes for them for special occasions.  Preferred getting into conversation with women, it was a lot more interesting then the guy stuff, although I did the guy stuff for a while, but it wasn't realy my cup of tea.

"Sure I would have preferred being born 100% GG!!!" but I am grateful for at least having the opportunity of playing the roll as who I should have been to start with. And be grateful and enjoy it for what ever years I may have left. Like most here I have traveled a long arduous journey, but as I see it I have finally come home to rejoin the fold.  That is my opinion and not necessarily anyone else's, what the H do I know anyway huh.

I keep plodding forward, one foot ahead of the other, a quitter I am not. This weeks news in Cindy's life is that I have a very good possible opportunity to be one of the founders for an employment agency for trans folks here in Vancouver,  and I am also involved in helping to build a web site, a Trans Message Center, something like a trans news paper if you will. This is what I live for, anything, no mater how little or big it is. The good part is that I know how it feels to fall flat on my nose then get up and brush the dust off my knees and just keep moving on forward, without missing a stride. So loosing is nothing to fear and winning would certainly be so welcomed and rewarding, I would be the happiest woman in the this country. To try and make a different in other peoples lives, both at the woman's shelter and the TS community are my greatest desire and goal. I never liked living in a city but in this case it has been so worth it and me cart is a gittin full.

Ya'll have a wonderful day.

Cindy

[deviousxen]

I hate my life. That doesn't mean I don't like who I am per se. I like some of my qualities I get from being trans. Open mindedness for one. Its fully open to most things.

Just cause I wouldn't give myself up, doesn't mean it hurts any less, and until I get my career going, I not only will hate my life, but I wont have much of one.

[ginger39]

I am certainly with Cindy on this one. I would love to have had some children. I guess I could have had some as a man but it isn't the same thing. Also, a fertile woman would have actually had to have been attracted to me. Some were, most weren't. That is life I guess. To masculine for the women who like the effiminate males and too effiminate for the women who like masculine males.  Also, when I was younger it was very, very hard to be in long term relationships. Even today, I find it very difficult and pine for a divorce every day.