Etiquette when meeting another TS

[Aiden]

Yeh, thing is while talking on here with you guys help, I tend to desire RL interaction with someone in similar situations as well.  Someone I can actually see and hear.

[Mister]

Instead of being approached, I was stared at repeatedly while out to lunch with a friend today.  Seriously, dude, do you think anyone wants to be STARED DOWN while they're eating? 

It was so horrifically annoying that I wanted to throw my chow mein in his face.

[tekla]

I guess, depending on my mood, I would say ....

Keep on staring at me and I'm going to rip out your eyes and SkullF*** you.

or

What are you looking at D*cknose, why don't you take a picture it will last you longer.

And I look crazy enough to back that junk up, easy to do really if your crazy enough to say it in the first place.

But mostly I have learned to ignore it, I have had it happen so much, for so long, for several different reasons, that it pretty much goes past me.  But I do crave attention, and if there is going to be attention, I think I should be the center of it, why not?  Of course I'm thinking that I should be the bride at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral.^*



*Alice Roosevelt, talking about her dad, Teddy

[Virginia87106]

I try to always approach other trans people to be friendly, but I never bring up the trans issues or identity unless they do first.  It is my feeling that we need to support each other and friendship is a primary way to do that.  I have many FtM friends and many times the way I have met them has been running into them at events or in public. 

[Mister]

I guess, depending on my mood, I would say ....

Keep on staring at me and I'm going to rip out your eyes and SkullF*** you.

or

What are you looking at D*cknose, why don't you take a picture it will last you longer.

And I look crazy enough to back that junk up, easy to do really if your crazy enough to say it in the first place.

But mostly I have learned to ignore it, I have had it happen so much, for so long, for several different reasons, that it pretty much goes past me.  But I do crave attention, and if there is going to be attention, I think I should be the center of it, why not?  Of course I'm thinking that I should be the bride at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral.^*



*Alice Roosevelt, talking about her dad, Teddy

Ha!

I made the mistake of buying groceries near my home (gasp!) and ended up in the line of a ->-bleeped-<-, simply because it wasn't too insanely long.  Every since, the dude eyeballs the hell out of me wherever I see him.  I typically let things slide, but it's obnoxious.  Obviously, he's clocked me.  Fine.  But does the stare down need to continue for MONTHS? (we're talking 8 or 9 by now)

[tekla]

Oh who knows about other people? Could be they need new glasses or something.  Or they think they know you and are trying to place how they do or something.


And really I would use irony, sarcasm or satire, but you have to be able to do that stuff real well, or else it don't work, its easier to fake being mean - and if your are already mad, you don't even have to fake it.

[Alyssa M.]

Yeh, thing is while talking on here with you guys help, I tend to desire RL interaction with someone in similar situations as well.  Someone I can actually see and hear.

Of course. That makes total sense. That's why there are support groups. You could go to one, and then you don't have to worry about clocking / outing / etc.

[Aiden]

Yeh, thing is while talking on here with you guys help, I tend to desire RL interaction with someone in similar situations as well.  Someone I can actually see and hear.

Of course. That makes total sense. That's why there are support groups. You could go to one, and then you don't have to worry about clocking / outing / etc.

Yeh I know, just a matter of trying to work my scedule around it lol.  Right now, going try to start with this group thats not a support group really so much as an informative or whatever.  People who help get an idea of what need to do for transitioning and how the PA laws apply and how to work withing the PA law system for it lol

As for passing, probably doesn't help that there probably been a lot of people who have seen me looking more female before.  The fact that I travel on public bus a lot plus walk all over place kinda exposes me to lot of eyes you know.