I used to say there was no difference between men and women, other than the anatomical and learned behavior. The older I get, the less I am sure of. Maybe, it's just that I can't tell the difference. If I could dress as I feel, I would probably wear a shirt with flowing sleeves, a colorful tunic, and knee britches. I would wear my hair long, as it is, but caught up in a ribbon rather than with an elastic. Any hair if have (not much anywhere other than my head) is free to grow, though the beard looks best trimmed. I wear no jewelry (not even a wristwatch) and no makeup--and that is usually OK with me. And I carry a brown canvas and leather shoulder purse.
I am slow, clumsy, relatively lacking in mechanical skills, and mildly afraid of bugs and vermin. I do have an intuitive sense of how to make software function. When a sentence starts, "All men..." it rarely includes me. I like to cook, sew, knit, and care for children and animals. Which means at a party, I am likely the only male talking with the group in the kitchen. Though I am not obsessed with cleaning up immediately after a party (I'd rather do it the next day). And I also like to hike, ride a bicycle, and drive an adept car with manual shift along quiet curving country roads.
Identifying as an androgyne, means not having to feel guilty that I am not a real man. It also means I need not transition, which simplifies my relationships, somewhat. It means it's OK to look at a woman and wish I had her body. Identifying as an androgyne means that for the first time in my life I can be open with people, meaning the people on this forum. It doesn't mean I know whether I am male, female, both, or neither.
Sorry for being so self-absorbed,
S
