i am not really sure if this belongs in the sexuality group or in this one, but for lack of explicit details and the need for help from people who might be/might have gone through the same thing i am going to put it here.
my SO is into about her fifth month of HRT. she is experiencing great results with breast development and is passing as female to about 95% of people she meets offhandedly in bars, resturants, stores, etc. as is to be expected, she still has a TON of issues with her appearance. i don't mind. i understand how hard this is. i tell her as much as possible that i think she is beautiful.
when we started "hooking up" for lack of a better term, it was right before she started HRT. things were a little awakward but not too bad. for the first couple months, things we alright. recently, she has just started panicing every time we start to get intimate. i understand and respect her boundries and would never imagine pressuring her to do anything that she didn't feel comfortable with. some times she even initiates the contact and then panics and totally shuts down. she feels unattractive and embarassed and that she doesn't know what she's doing. i try to reassure her that things are okay but nothing i say seems to make her feel better. i wouldn't really mind all that much if we just went back to just cuddling and snuggling rather. i would be lying if i said it didn't get a little frustraiting to get turned on and then cut off. i am sure that there is something that triggered this behavior but i don't know how to get her to talk to me or how to reasure her more.
anyone have any advice?
