A few guys like me when they are drunken

[barbie]

My crossdressing and beauty as a woman is a subject of jokes at my work place. Nowadays, I am a little bit confused about this because a few guys seem to like frolicking with me when they are drunken.

A few days ago, we had a drink, dancing and singing. I wore casuals as I just left my workplace. One guy at my age joked me on my beauty as a woman. His hands caressed my shoulders and arms, commenting that my arms are so soft like women's. I said I am sorry that I do not wear nice clothes today, but he said my appearance in casuals is nevertheless perfect. Other guy commented that no woman at my workplace has slimmer waist than mine. I did not think that they felt any degree of sexuality from me. We danced together, and he commented that I am taller than him. A man dancing with a man is not unusual, and is a kind of play when we are drunken. He said that I am beautiful.

I have no reason to dislike those jokes, because they anyway praise my beauty as a woman. On the other hand, some aged guys commented that my colleagues seem to have a strong stomach to endure me, implying that I look disgusting to him. I prefer those guys at my age to those aged guys who could be disgusted at me. Any way, I feel sexual attraction from women, not from men. I was a little bit afraid whether those guys indeed were attracted sexually by me. Fortunately, they do not go further, stoping at just frolic.

I am just wondering whether heterosexual men could be sexually attracted by crossdressers like me. Or, it is just a joke.

Barbie~~

[Skymning]

Alcohol has some strange effects on people. The typical heterosexual male is naturally attracted to feminine characteristics, because they are *supposed* to show how fertile a woman is, or at least that is what I think. When a person drinks, they tend to lost a great deal of their judgment and some of those "natural reactions" become prevalent. This is just a small theory, so don't criticize me if I'm well off from the truth. 

[Barbara]

I have be in the closet for along time through my younger years.I had a drinking buddie thought out high school.Well fast foward to 20 years later.I ran into my buddie 20 years later at a convience store.He is married with 3 kids now.He asked me to have a drink with him like old times.I went into the bathroom to change into enfemme,He said wow!.I told him i was always a crossdrersser.He said ,why the hell did'nt you tell me before.He actually tells me what he wants me to wear now.

Posted on: August 31, 2008, 08:24:20 PMBelieve me these guys that seem turned off by you are probably very insecure people.I had a real man,he provides for his family.but he likes to be with me sometimes.And he makes me feel like a lady.

[Joanna Maguire]

Drunken guys might be attracted to you ? Maybe in their drunken state the could mistake you  for being a GG or they are curious about sex with a CD being OK even when they think they are straight. Personaly in that situation I would excuse my self to go to the ladies then just disappear.Yor safer in the ladies They wont go there  I had simmilar experiences. A couple of times Ive been picked up by GG's wanting to find out if the person dressed as a woman is realy a man underneath. That is fun.
Drunks are usualy a nuisance to a CD or a GG Dont go alone  to such places a GG is best or a male friend.

[Jordan]

Barbie,

You are a rather beautiful CD, in fact you are very, very convincing to the human eye as to wether or not you really are female.

If these males are hitting on you, it is because they want you...

I have never known a truly straight man, who would "carress" another mans arms without fear of humilation.

Or hit on another man in any way, as a joke...

It just doesnt happen, I mean what alternative motive could they have...??

[barbie]

Thanks for all detailed replies. It helps me understand those people. They usually sigh at my flat chest and want me to put on bra. But I guess I am homophobic, which means I do not want any sexual relationship with men.

I remember that some women also wanted to check my underneath. When drunken, those women jubilated when they dropped my pants to see my thong. I am not quite sure whether they see me as a man or a woman, but they are very friendly to me and are not afraid of me as a strange man. I think women can express more freely what they feel from me. Even strange women rub my bared legs when they are drunken.

I am statisfied with jokes and sprees. If I can make people happy, then I am also happy.

Barbie~~

[Jordan]

Doesnt make you homophobic, just not Homosexual thats all...

Barbie, I have a question you dont have to answer...

Are you sure you are a Cross Dresser? How do you Know?

What exactly made you come to that conclusion? Why do you feel that way?

[barbie]

Barbie, I have a question you dont have to answer...

Are you sure you are a Cross Dresser? How do you Know?

What exactly made you come to that conclusion? Why do you feel that way?

Hi, Jordan,

Thanks for replies and questions.

I am a crossdresser because I crossdress. I think crossdressing is a behaviour whereas transsexualism is a state of mind. Of course, I have had transsexualism since childhood, but I could confine it.

In retrospect, I was sexually attracted to a certain type of women, a certain area of body and other fashion accessories. For example, I had strong fetishism on legs and their accessories. In my 40s, I reazlied that I was actually attracted to myself. Those legs to which I strongly attached were actually my legs. When I happened to first wear silk stockings, all guys there said my legs are as much beautiful as hosiery models. I think I am a kind of narcissist, and sexually attracted to women who resemble me.

I am also a kind of Freudian. I think sex or libido is a driving force for humna life. In my case, I can crossdress because I still have health and power. Power means both physical and social power. Crossdressing stire my libido and I can become a little bit excited, ready for work, research and social. If I can not corssdress, I become rather depressed.

Fortunately or not, I have had rather feminine body since my adolescence. I look plain in men's dress, but can be outstanding in women's dress. I remember that a few guys including my contemporary strangely fondled me when I was teens, but it was never related with sex.

I remember that I was sexually attracted to two men in my life time. The first was my classmate at my teens, and that feeling was so strong compared with love with women. It did not last long, but I fell in love at that time. To my eyes, he looked ike a beautiful woman or feminine boy, although he was certainly heterosexual. He once said to me that he sometimes wore makeup of her sister. I guess that the guys who like me probably feel the same from me.

In any case, I think I am close to hetersexual crossdresser.

Barbie~~

[Jordan]

Barbie,

Thank you for sharing that with me, it really helps me to look at myself closer when I hear others stories.

I believe in alot of ways we are very alike.

I feel very trapped into calling myself a transexual, when I am not 100% sure I am, I feel like I havent had the chance to really find out who I am yet, and Im not convinced that I 100% would need to live as a woman 100% of the time.

Being as out and open as you are, how do you manage to hold down a job when one day you might show up to work as a man, or one day show up as a woman? How do people deal with you constantly flip flopping images on them?

Also I believe I read along time ago you have a wife? How does she cope with everything?

[barbie]

Being as out and open as you are, how do you manage to hold down a job when one day you might show up to work as a man, or one day show up as a woman? How do people deal with you constantly flip flopping images on them?

Also I believe I read along time ago you have a wife? How does she cope with everything?

Hi, Jordan,

It has been subtle to crossdress at my workplaces. It was not so successful at my previous work place in the U.S. I am satisfied with my current work place in my country. My appearance is rather consistent in short term, but I progress slowly in changing my image. At first, it was androgynous, but towards more feminine image step by step. People who sometimes see me could be surprised, but people near me are well adjusted to me. They no longer are surprised. I do not wear skirts and heels at work place, but some people saw me wearing them outside. They know that I am crossdresser. I once tried to pursuade them that I am a transgender, but my lip could not do much. My action eventually made them accept me as a crossdresser or married transgender.

My colleagues and others think that I am intelligent and well qualified to help them. My crossdressing is a second matter to them, but it could be important. A few high-ranking, senior people have supported me, as they think I am an ambitious scientist. Above all, my acadmic career is superior, and even seniors can not ignore my opinions and suggestions. To them, my academic ability is more important than my gender identity stuffs.

Also, I did my best to get along with people here. Attending funerals related with my colleagues is critical in my country, as they never forget my attendence. I tend to like talking with others while smiling. Especially some women are very friendly to me. I frequently chat with female colleagues on fashion, beauty and diet. They like it and feel comfortable with me. I am sometimes treated like a TV celebrity.

My wife is basically rather indifferent to my crossdressing, but comments from her friends sometimes caused problems. As long as I support my family, she is fine. She purchased my first high heels for me about 5 years ago. She chose skirsts for me at stores, and took one of my own skirts as hers. She sometimes wear my clothes, and I sometimes take her fashion accessories such as handbag. We share some makeup items. She does not like my wearing tube tops. I can not see my red-striped tube top any longer. I wore it a few weeks ago at a beach and left it in the laundry . I fear that she dumped it away.

Barbie~~

[Jordan]

Thank you again for the insight into your life.

[Jay]

Personally I think its because as you said you they tell you are a beautiful woman and very "woman" like. Which is true. Maybe they are sexually attracted to you but they are held back..

[tekla]

In vino veritas

Has a lot of truth in it.  People do things when they are drunk that they might not do otherwise, but perhaps its just them being themselves.