Allow me to jump back to the topic.
I don't think I will ever fit in either. As a kid, without being conscious about it, I was pretty androgynous mentally. But since I never thought about it, I never worried about fitting in or not. I played with boys and girls. Then I grew up and started thinking that maybe I was FtM, but I never really looked into it, or knew anyone else who was, so there was no trying to fit in with anyone. Of course I don't think I would fit in with the cisgender either.
Then I came to identify as androgyne, and now I definitely didn't fit in. Haha. I lurk in the FtM forum, but haven't worked up the courage to post anything yet. I read the MtF forum sometimes too, but certainly I wouldn't fit in there. I'm pretty comfortable with my own self identify even though I haven't really told many people about it. Only a few of my friends know, since I don't talk about it unless it comes up, and I think I've only specifically used the word "androgyne" to one person. So it's a little odd for me when my friends say things that distinctly put me in a female role, but while my body is still this feminine, I don't want to really insist on anything. I think being androgyne gives us a unique view and ability to understand, though not necessarily to fit in.