I think we've got to accept our transgender identities in a way that allows it not to be a weapon against us.
If someone says to me, "YOU'RE A ->-bleeped-<-!" my response is, "Yeah, and?"
Now, if they say, "YOU'RE A WOMAN PRETENDING TO BE A MAN," that's more than just knowing I'm a transsexual. That's passing judgment on me, and I have a feeling they do that whether or not they knew I was a ->-bleeped-<-.