Touch paranoia?

[icontact]

Anyone else really paranoid about getting touched?

I am. I'm afraid if people touch me in any way, it will just prove how I'm not a bio-guy. I avoid hugs cause I'm sure they will feel the binding. I avoid people patting me on the back cause paranoid or not, they will feel the binding that way. I can give you a reason for just about every body part. I don't know. It just really freaks me out if people are even standing too close to me, I absolutely HAVE to move away.

[ConfusedMichelle]

Yes, I've had a thing about that ever since I was young. 

I don't know why, but I just hate being touched unless it's by someone I really, really trust.

[kephalopod]

Sure. In my case, though, I've always just chalked it up to being an intense introvert with galaxy-sized personal space issues.

[Adam]

Ya, it does bother me whenever someone touches me in the chest, even if they just bumped into me.

[ConfusedMichelle]

Dude with the chest, same here. So paranoid, esp. when I was like 10 and it was time to start wearing a bra. Ugh

[kestin]

Hmm, I'm definitely paranoid about people touching me as well. I've always just thought it was because I grew up in a non-hugging household, but maybe theres more to it than that?

[Nero]

No, but I don't pass.

[Elwood]

Sort of.

I don't want to be touched on my boobs. If I'm clothed and someone touches my crotch, my pack feels pretty realistic. I am only scared of pressing my chest on someone.

I do yoga and miming, both quite physically involved with people. Fortunately, a lot of work is done back to back and side to side.

[Mister]

Nope, not in the slightest.

[iFindMeHere]

since slightly after the body dysphoria started, i DON"T WANT ANYONE TOUCHING MY CHEST unless i'm bound. body, hands, doesn't matter. keep my shirt on during *ahem*.

[gravitysrainbow]

I'd been especially paranoid lately because my binder was wearing out. But dude, a couple days ago I had a girl grab my chest, like just totally and completely grope me, and I still passed. And I don't have a small chest. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that, depending on the situation and person, it could take a LOT for touch to give you away. Being trans makes you hyper-aware, and sometimes that's hard to forget.

[trannyboy]

Before top surgery absolutely, after healing from top surgery no. Until my penis is present and accounted for nobody better touch my lower body or they are getting punched. I still don't know how I managed for my piercing. Oh wait now I remember, disassociation.

->-bleeped-<-boy

[Jay]

I dont mind someone lightly touching my chest but most people who do know about me... so I cant really say!

[JonasCarminis]

i was at a mixer (informal dance party at school after football games) and i was dancing (kindof... i cant dance)  but i was taller than a lot of the girls i was around so it was no problem since most of the elbows were o the stomach, but every time i was around people close to my height or taller i freaked out because i kept getting elbows to the boobs and i was so scared that someone would be able to feel my fat bags.

[jet3]

I don't care about being touched that much.  I have a pretty small chest so when i bind you cant feel anything, it just feels flat.  It use to bother me more than it does now.  I just realized over time that if I present myself as confident and comfortable I pass more, and people tend not to question things.

[Jack Daniels]

yea, I have touch paranoia, too, but comin from thier perspective, if they do touch your binder, theyre probably just gonna think youre waerin some type of shirt with tecture(I know thats spelled wrong). I mean realistically, how many people...its hard to put in words...um...people dont usually immediately think of something unless it was in mind before...if that makes sense. Like if they were thinkin before somethin about binder, then they might know, but otherwise, theyll probably just think shirt tecture.

[GQjoey]

I've had it since I started living full-time, pretty bad. Unless I'm in a relationship, or they're family, I don't want to be touched. There's a girl at work, who doesn't know I'm trans, and is always coming up behind me and touching me. I somewhat freaked out once, and told her straight up to QUIT, and she got offended like "Damn, what's your problem". It's mainly on my back, and chest of course.
Even when I am in a close relationship with someone who knows, it gets uncomfortable if I'm not binding, and they're laying their head on my chest, or putting their hand on my chest. My ex knew the only safe spot was between the moobs, and she couldn't sleep without her hand there. I think it's pretty normal for guys pre-op to have it.