No plans for SRS?

[ZoeySD]

This whole thread has been very interesting, but from my own experience early when I started transition about 35years ago, all I wanted was to be a girl, do girl things and live a girl's life, I didn't think much about SRS at the time, but wanted to be an attractive woman and was successful in that, but it was my Mam who insisted that I needed SRS, when I did have SRS in 1985 my Mam was absolutely thrilled, Im lucky I didn't regret it, may seem strange looking back now, having SRS because my Mam wanted it and felt I needed it, when I was recovering from the surgery and pain at the time, my Parents kept telling me, ''it was for the best''
With the passing years and as I get older, yes it probably was for the best, I can't imagine ever having ''the other thing'' its like as if it was never there, my feelings where different before SRS, but now I don't regret it, I grew with it I surpose, since SRS I feel more of a complete woman.
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I really like this thread.  I have similar feelings at the moment.  I like what you said here pauline about wanting to just live as a girl, because thats how I feel.  At the same point I don't know if I want SRS, any surgery just scares me.  Maybe things will change as I transition more.   

[Aurora]

You may also find that SRS is something you grow into more and more as you travel and discover yourself much more with your therapist. There is also in my mind a big difference between ts and transgendered though as Natasha has said and you really should determine that with your therapy before you do something you regret through medical means.

I can totally relate to that.  My decision for SRS was something I've grown into.  Having my Orchiectomy was more about detaching my broken male self, SRS for me is more about fixing my sexuality.  I've grown to realize there is just certain things "I" desire which my male part could never provide.  It all comes from living, feeling, being a woman in society.  Things I've had to experience to know.

[pretty pauline]

This whole thread has been very interesting, but from my own experience early when I started transition about 35years ago, all I wanted was to be a girl, do girl things and live a girl's life, I didn't think much about SRS at the time, but wanted to be an attractive woman and was successful in that, but it was my Mam who insisted that I needed SRS, when I did have SRS in 1985 my Mam was absolutely thrilled, Im lucky I didn't regret it, may seem strange looking back now, having SRS because my Mam wanted it and felt I needed it, when I was recovering from the surgery and pain at the time, my Parents kept telling me, ''it was for the best''
With the passing years and as I get older, yes it probably was for the best, I can't imagine ever having ''the other thing'' its like as if it was never there, my feelings where different before SRS, but now I don't regret it, I grew with it I surpose, since SRS I feel more of a complete woman.
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I really like this thread.  I have similar feelings at the moment.  I like what you said here pauline about wanting to just live as a girl, because thats how I feel.  At the same point I don't know if I want SRS, any surgery just scares me.  Maybe things will change as I transition more.   

WhichOnesPink
I understand how you feel, surgery is a major step, just take each step at a time, I was very excited at having my breast aug. and FFS surgery, I remember looking forward to the results, I was in no rush to have SRS at the time, I was just scared at the time, but in the end my Mam use to say my transition would never be complete till I had SRS.
So after about 10years of transition I finally had SRS in 1985 also a trach shave, that was a sweeter, I found it very hard to cope, its been a painful journey, and yet after all the pain and the surgery, then the after care dilating, labiaplasty, soreness healing, etc I was just glad it was all over, and now, well I simply love being a woman, living a girl's life, I have a very caring boyfriend, he'll buy me flowers and tell me Im gorgeous lol! I also love a girly night out, girl talk fashion, shopping and MEN! Don't mention beauty lol Im getting botox treatment around my eyes in 2weeks time, and my lips done again, well didn't work out the last time, I can hear the whispers ''vain'' well I am 51, I want to stay young for another while lol its every woman's fear GETTING OLD
Things will change and work out as you take the transition road, modern surgery, I believe is not as painfull, follow your dream.
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