One other question... Sex Drive/emotional issues on HRT?

[marriedtgdad]

...I forgot to ask this before. What effect have y'all seen on your sex drive on HRT? Frankly, I'd welcome some dimunition of mine.

I've heard a lot of other people say they are "calmer" after starting HRT. Is that common as well? I'm racked with stress and anxiety, even being on zoloft.

[vanna]

sex drive lowered for me and much more calmer. gone from suicidal tendancies to yes im going somewhere with my life.

its helped me concentrate on getting my life together in work and home and also concentrate on the bigger goal of srs.

Results may vary

[Imadique]

Sex drive is almost gone for me, which I'm extremely grateful for!

Emotionally I was over the moon happy for the first two months, and I'm still happier now but at around about the two month mark I had about three weeks of depression bad enough to the point where I wrote a few goodbye notes to friends and was planning on ending it after a final gig on the 25th of Sept. Luckily things turned around in the few days leading up to the gig and it was probably the best one ever (and I read the letters and decided I didn't my last pieces of writing on this earth to be such melodramatic rubbish!).

I don't blame the hormones for causing the depression, it's just that seeing as I'm a lot more emotional (actually cried  in an Adam Sandler movie...) they make it a lot more intense.

So yeah, the point is overall I'd definitely say it made me more balanced and a lot happier and I definitely feel it was the right decision but the flipside is that the lows are much lower also.

[Nicole]

Its weird, while my sex drive did't drop right off it as said got calmer.
To put it in a lewd sort of way I didn't want to hump everything.
I still got very turned on, I started to find newer things were turning me on, it lasted longer & felt better, I felt a "inner glow".
As for my emotions, I was a pretty easy going person and my emotions have always been level. I did start to cry at new things, I started to cry at movies, TV shows and things that made me happy. I also found that I could open up to people. What I mean by that is I didn't have that little voice in the back of my head saying "no keep that to yourself".

[Suzy]

Truly, it did what antidepressants could never do.  It lessened my anxiety amazingly.  As far as sex drive, it lessened it significantly, but did leave me able to perform.  I won't say any more than that.   

Kristi

[Robin_p]

Giggles, It gets different.

Emotionally i feel great. Getting side swipe with emotions in stressful situations takes some getting used too.

[Gabrielle]

In my experience my libido dropped to nothing only when my testosterone level dropped way below the female norm.  I have found that since it is now in the female norm for tesosterone and estrogen that I have a libido, but thankfully its not the same as when I had all that testosterone in me.

As far as my emotions, well it has actually evened out my emotions.

[christene]

definately droped for me - thankfully. I am a lot more emotional though...sometimes it just comes all of a sudden.

[pamshaw]

After 4 months on HRT I have definately had emotional changes as well as sex drive changes. I feel more relaxed and at peace and my sex drive is very different. I now longer think about sex as I did as a male. I am very passive and submissive now, and my partner, a preop TS, is always the initiator. Having said that I truly enjoy having sex in the female role and I am more interested in my partners pleasure than mine. I am presenting as a female most of the time as my small stature and thin bone structure makes me quite passable. I am accepting of my true female self; hormones have confirmed my GID and sex is wonderful but is not all consuming as it was before my transition began.

Pam

Posted on: October 19, 2008, 05:01:19 pmA few more thoughts. As a male I could be instantly in the mood for sex. Now I must be slowly put in the mood. I understand why women need to be romanced as I have the same emotions now. I only think about sex if I am relaxed and feeling very femine. For instance this happens after I have been to the spa, had my hair and nails done and a fresh body wax (I stay completely hairless). I come home, take a bubble bath, carefully do my makeup and put on some sexy underware. Soft music and a glass of wine finishes putting me in the mood. My partner is very slow and gentle with me. Sex is much more emotional than physical and when I am accepting my partner I feel a worm glow I never felt as a male; it is wonderful.


Pam

[Just Mandy]

Emotions... hummm... nope... after almost a year on HRT I've been steady as a rock.

LOL

That was the biggest lie... for me it's been an emotional roller coaster. Higher highs and lower lows than
I've ever felt. Laughter easily turns into tears like my mind is confused between the two emotions. But I
would not give those feelings up for anything.

My sex drive has been very low to non-existent prior to and since HRT so no change there. Although I do enjoy
sex now more than ever. I can still perform but the feeling has changed greatly. Orgasms are much longer and
less intense. My thingy also gets very tender very quickly now. And like Pam I need time and the proper place
for things to be right.

Amanda