Awww thanks guys for your coments, you really made my day.
Jane, yep I have hairier arms than my partner who is biomale!
and Chet LOL @ "cradle robber" hehehe there are actually only 3 years between us but I look much younger than I actually am...
James,you have a definate point about the piercing, it does have something of the feminine to it although I do really like it, not that I can really change it or I will have a really obvious hole in my face, I've had it such a long time LOL
Maybe when I get proper facial hair it won't be so obvious so if I really want to ditch it I can get rid of it then but I'm cool with it for now. I may or may not get a nose piercing, I do think about that from time to time.