Transition Isn’t About The Inside, It’s About The Outside

[Natasha]

Transition Isn't About The Inside, It's About The Outside

http://hinkycorners.wordpress.com/2008/10/21/transition-isnt-about-the-inside-its-about-the-outside/
10/21/2008

It's funny how these things just creep up on you and suddenly epiphany you out of your chair.  Transitioning isn't about the inside.  It's about the outside.

I was born male.  Even though I'm a computer programmer by day, an arguably "male" dominated career (and no, I don't want to argue it) it doesn't really make me happy.  I just happened to more or less accidentally become a programmer.  If I could, I'd be a fiction author.  Maybe even a Reiki healer or massage therapist.  Or ... who knows.  I love to cook.  I love to be creative.  I love to help people.  I'm sensitive.  I'm caring.  And in general it's gotten me taken advantage of a lot.  But I wouldn't change a thing, because people need help, and at least so far I'm still smiling.  (Well, mostly.  All of life is a pendulum.  We have our off days.)  Point is, there is a lot of my personality that is feminine.  And if I could, if the universe aligned, I'd transition in a heartbeat.

[tinkerbell]

I disagree!  Yes, I know we've always been female on the inside, but I am afraid that not too many people have come to this realization.  A person has to transition mentally as well in order to say that they have successfully transitioned; otherwise you get what you normally get with some people, the idea that you were "a man" who "became" a woman (i.e, "different", "special", "out of the ordinary")

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