HELP!! I AM THE MALE SPOUSE OF A M2F T/S

[roctober]

{UPDATE}
SHE GOT BETTER FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS,SHE WAS NOT SO MEAN TO ME, THEN SHE CAME BACK WITH A VENGENCE, SHE KICKED ME OUT FOR THE LAST TIME LAST AUGUST 30TH, THEN I WENT BACK FOR A MONTH, THEN OCTOBER 11 2009 I LEFT HER IN FLAGSTAFF AZ,THEN SHE KICKED ME OUT OF HER HOUSE IN CAVE CREEK, CINDI WAS ALL I EVER WANTED IN A MATE., NOW SHE IS GONE FOR GOOD, AND THE EVIL MONSTER WHO RESIDES IN HER BODY  HAS CONSUMED HER,






hello,my future wife is a member of this site,
since i met her last september, our lives have been  most wonderful.
up`s and downs as any couple hope.
lately i have noticed the her mood swings are led on by her personality.
i am sure she has at least 3 personalitys, and each one does not know what the other says or thinks.
when she is herself she is the greatest person in the world, and i am so happy  we found each other.
the other 2 are so mean and oblivious to me or who i am .
one of them puts me down and makes my life a living hell, the other is mean and selfish and thinks i am her slave to do her bidding.
i am  afraid she is one of the other 2 more than she is  my woman.
sometimes it hurts so bad that i think of leaving her , it is that bad,
and she even has kicked me out several times, then called to ask me back.
i love her so that i stay becouse of the love i have for her, but she is really testing me now.
i never know when she will become one of the others and start her meaness.
i am at the end of my rope so to speak,,,please help me to understand if this is common or
does she need help?
  a very loving and concerned husband.
roctober

[Audrey]

have you told her about this or talked about it?  That would probably be the place to start.  Possibly therapy for her or couples therapy. 

Audrey

[mickie88]

sounds like she desperately needs therapy, i know i have one personality and that's it. i would seriously seek professional help as soon as i could because she may hurt someone and never realize she did it, as you say she has a mean streak. i wish you all the best and hope you get her taken care of. take care of yourself too while you're at it. 



Best wishes,
Warrior Princess Mickie

[Softwolfdreams]

You are in my thoughts and prayers as is your S/O. I truly think she needs therapy.
Therapy might make the "mean ones" go away and then you can can truly have your
girl back. Have you watched "Sybil" with Sally Field? The real Sybil didn't know about
all of her personalities until her therapist coaxed them out and introduced them one by
one to Sybil. Maybe your S/O needs to meet the other personalities.
Could the other personalities be the result of some horrible thing that happened in your
S/O's past or something. I know for Sybil her personalities were the result of physical and
mental abuse by her mentally ill mother.

[Truth Seeker]

This sounds like it could be Bipolar or something similar.

Most important thing is not to blame her,be as supportive as you can be, and encourage some kind of counselling or therapy. But at the end of the day, if she continues to be this way, you can't feel guilty if you have to leave to protect yourself.

It takes two people to make a relationship work, if you know you have done everything you can then you can walk away from the relationship at least knowing it was not your fault that it didn't work out. And in that situation, it may be better to end it quickly and cleanly rather than dragging it out into a trainwreck.

But make sure you're at that stage before you make this decision, in the mean time continue to do everything you can, be patient, and most importantly be HONEST about your every thought or feeling. As long as you do that, then there is nothing else you can expect of yourself, and if she ultimately refuses to get the help she needs unfortunately there's nothing you can do about that.

Just don't let any of it turn inward, be objective and you will see that you've done all you can, the rest is on her shoulders. Good luck, I hope she finds her way through it and things settle down for you.


Truth Seeker