About a month or so ago there was a new female coworker who was highly attracted to me, a lesbian, who thought I was butch. Orientation aside, she was someone with no personal boundaries and other issues and constantly invaded my personal space. Eventually she moved on to someone else after I and my coworkers repeatedly told her I was straight (I'm not out at work so they all assume I'm female; I currently identify as straight male). Seriously, her touchy/feely actions and lack of boundaries really creeped me out. She eventually quit (she was psycho for other reasons and dangerous to have on the job).
This week at work there is another woman who just started on Friday. Immediately she was also in my space, no boundaries. Coming to me repeatedly with questions after I told her who she needed to ask for the answers - her supervisors, not me. Then she got touchy/feely. A coworker with managerial duties took her aside and had a personal conversation with her with regards to touching in the workplace and invading peoples spaces. Apparently fell on deaf ears and she started in again last night. I made it clear there was to be no touching, but then as she left she touched me again and said See ya next week.
WTF??
I actually had to speak to a manager about these inappropriate moves. Seriously. I've never in my life felt like my space was invaded, or my vibes said back off. Now even communicating BACK OFF doesn't work.
My managers know I'm trans and are fine with it; this woman doesn't know yet (still awaiting management to decide how to announce) though I am out privately (with management's permission) to select coworkers.
What gives? All my life I've been invisible. And now I'm just minding my own business and they're all over me. I don't get it.
Jay
P.S. This second woman smokes like a chimney, and has bad dental disease. NOT ATTRACTIVE!!
