My brother came out to me

[Dana_W]

Kelley,

That's got to be one of the most unusual coming out stories I've ever heard.

I try to picture my own older brother pre-empting my coming out news by telling me the same thing, and I just get the giggles. Of course, growing up with him I didn't detect any hints of gender bending in any way, while my clues were scattered all over the place. Maybe he was just better at hiding than me? I'd better hurry up and come out to my family before he steals the spotlight! Who ever knew Mr. Quiet Jock was secretly a Drama Queen?

All kidding aside, that is really an unusual situation. Two boys who turn out to BOTH be MTF transsexuals in the same family... there's a Discovery Channel documentary in there at least, if not a feature film.

I do think you could learn a lot from one another this way though. It doesn't sound like the easiest thing to wrap your head around, but once you get used to it I hope you take advantage of the situation and really deeply talk to one another.

[iFindMeHere]

All kidding aside, that is really an unusual situation. Two boys who turn out to BOTH be MTF transsexuals in the same family... there's a Discovery Channel documentary in there at least, if not a feature film.

I do think you could learn a lot from one another this way though. It doesn't sound like the easiest thing to wrap your head around, but once you get used to it I hope you take advantage of the situation and really deeply talk to one another.

Actually, I know a brother and sister who share the same parents and each transitioned.

[postoplesbian]

I met two 30 something yr old lesbian MTF's who fly airplanes and are twins and both transitioned. I met them at MWMF a few yrs ago.

[Northern Jane]

As far as turning out to be like your sisters Kelly, don't worry about it - you see the bad side of that kind of personality so you wont go there. My adopted Mom was a total b!#ch and I swore I would never be like that - I am not, not at all.

As to your sibling coming out to you .... well forgive me for laughing but THAT'S A HOOT! Oh man could you have a BALL together! I have a younger sister and she never knew anything about what was going on - mom hid it all from her and so did I because she was a tattle-tale and I was always in enough doo-doo as it was. I left home before she found out and it was many years before we reconnected. Now we're like sisters again and it's great!

[Jennywocky]

I have to admit, your OP scenario is SO surreal. Who would have thunk?

I guess I'm fortunate in that while my mom is not a person I want to emulate in most ways and my sister is not in agreement with my transition, I still see good qualities about them -- because I noticed when I finally was going out that I do look a lot more like them than I had thought (especially the chin area). That was sort of a revelation for me, but also just very ... odd.

I'm guessing the OP was just a dump and a vent? Was there anything else you needed to hear from someone?

Yeah, I think you do need to face up to the issues you have with your sisters as part of transitioning in a healthy way. Once we go this road, there's no hiding anymore. We spent a lot of our past hiding and running from the reality inside of us; but if we continue to run from that stuff at this stage of the game, we only really hurt ourselves. The goal is to get healthy, whole, stable, and strong; growth, unfortunately, is usually a pretty painful and uncomfortable process, especially when you're "in-between" the old self and the new better self. I think your sibling's transition can help catalyze some of this process for you.

(And yes, it might be a bitch for her to steal your thunder so to speak -- but honestly, I'd be ecstatic. Someone in my family who actually DOES understand and will be supportive? I would LOVE to have that. If you can see it as a positive, that would help you immensely.)