Lack of Clothes

[daniela]

The only thing you need to know about my age is that i'm a teen and i can't work yet or buy my own house

the only female in the house is my mom and she as a REALLY TINY wardrobe

i wore ALL her clothes and because of the lack of clothes i'm losing the "love" i have to crossdress

i though i wanted for it to happen but now that it's really happening i DON'T want to dislike CDing

any ideas?

[tekla]

Salvation Army, you can do it on your allowance.  Really.  You can find a dress in Salvation Army, or Goodwill for what you pay for a cheap burger and fries.

[daniela]

my parents can be kinda mean

i don't get any allowence

plus i leave in portugal

[tekla]

That is going to make it harder, as I've never been shopping in Portugal.  Do you know anyone - I'm thinking a girl here - who might help you?

[daniela]

NO ONE knows i like CDing

plus i have not even 1 cent

i guessed i'm doomed...

[tekla]

Well, it may be hard for now, but your life is not always going to be like this.

[MarySue]

The only thing you need to know about my age is that i'm a teen and i can't work yet or buy my own house

the only female in the house is my mom and she as a REALLY TINY wardrobe

i wore ALL her clothes and because of the lack of clothes i'm losing the "love" i have to crossdress

i though i wanted for it to happen but now that it's really happening i DON'T want to dislike CDing

any ideas?

To start, you will NOT lose your love to cross dress. Cross dressers might give it up for a while. We might throw out all our dresses (it's called purging). But sooner or later, the urge will come back. Trust me on this!

In my case, towards the end of high school, I outgrew Mom's outfits. And I couldn't dress when I was in college -- no privacy whatsoever. But the urge never went away totally.

So for now, hang in there, dear. Surf the shopping sites on the web, pick something you'd like to wear, and imagine yourself in it. You might even try "ordering" an outfit: load up a shopping cart with a dress or two, appropriate lingerie, stockings, shoes, jewelry, etc, etc. Just stop when you get to the final "enter your credit card" step. You might find that's fun.

And in a few years, when you're on your own, you can do it for real.

Hope that helps!

[Nicky]

What are your chances of getting a job?

[Kelley Jo]

I'm ashamed to say that I used to snatch panties from laundromats and clotheslines when I was just a youngster. Now that I have actually gone out and paid for women's clothes for myself, my daughter and my ex wife, I am appalled with the thought. Being a chick is expensive as hell! I spend far more money on female clothes than male clothes.

I'd suggest getting a good job and making lots of money if you want to feminize.

[daniela]

thank you for all your ideas

i wish time went by real fast

people at susan are so amazing and nice

thank you all!

[Kelley Jo]

I just read your post again and I now feel I probably gave a knee-jerk reaction the first time. I apologize.

I look at those pictures of myself when I was just a teen (35 something years ago) and I was skinny and effeminate and being called gay by so many people important in my life. Yet I wasn't gay, I was girly. I liked girls, that was plain and it was all I had to go with.

My family didn't have the money to send me to college and I'm not really smart enough anyway, so I did what was available and became a construction worker. It's funny thinking about it now; a little skinny girly boy like myself getting along in the world of rough and burly iron workers. I was abused many times but ultimately accepted and I made a living.

Now I wonder what might have been possible had someone helped me out. I see kids getting helped by social workers these days to help the TG if they decide to do that. Those things weren't available for me at that time. Now my body is all over-grown with man muscle and even if I could afford SRS, which I can't, I'd have to have so much muscle shaving and fat redistribution done to make myself happy with the way I look that it'd probably kill me. I'd be like one of those Hollywood stars who look hideous with all the reconstruction.

But what if these things; the Internet and sites like Susan's Place and the acceptance of TG we see now would have been there when I was just a teen? What could I have done? What would my life be like now? I might have found a way to do SRS and lived a completely different and happier life. Who knows?

The point is that I would urge young people like Daniela to immerse herself in every part of this website and others to educate herself about these matters so she doesn't wind up 50 years old and regretful, as I have.

Do whatever you have to to explore and identify your gender Daniela. We are here to support you. You stay in touch here and let us know what is going on as you learn more about yourself and... you never know. Maybe some of us would help you out financially.

In the meantime do whatever you can to earn a few dollars or pounds or whatever currency you have and look around in the thrift stores, the Salvation Army or whatever is the equivalent where you live and get yourself some well-fitting and nice feeling clothes.

Good luck and God bless you.

[daniela]

i thank you very much for that comment and telling that story 2 us

but actually i don't know what gender i am (on the inside)

because i like sitting, dressing and acting like a woman but i like violent movies, games, rock songs and i also like playing soccer

if i could i would wear 100% of the time woman clothes (expecially sexy clothes, my favorites) but the society is getting crappier every year

if i could choose a age to stop growing i would choose 23 because i could win my own money buy my own clothes, drink, vote, marry, etc.

so what gender do you think i am?

or maybe i'm a mix of the 2 genders?
is that even possible?

thank you for helping me!

[tekla]

Most people are some sort of mix, yin does not exist without the yang. 

[Chrissty]

but actually i don't know what gender i am (on the inside)

because i like sitting, dressing and acting like a woman but i like violent movies, games, rock songs and i also like playing soccer

My daughters favourite movie is Saw, she likes Slipknot and Limp Bizkit, loves playing violent X-Box games....

...OK... she doesn't play soccer, but then she doesn't play sports generally....

.. makes you think, doesn't it?

Chrissty

[tekla]

With the exception of Freddie Mercury and Queen most guys don't start bands to meet other guys. LOL.  Women are huge fans of rock, most of the ones I know like sports, and played at some level.  Really, things like that are stereotypes, not much else.