Help! I'm Afraid to Come Out!

[Shana A]

Help! I'm Afraid to Come Out!
Filed by: Eric Marcus
December 21, 2008 10:00 AM

http://www.bilerico.com/2008/12/help_im_afraid_to_come_out.php

    Hello Mr. Marcus,
    I'm a 48 yr. old man who is in a long-term, loving, committed relationship with another man whom I live with. I'm out to all my friends and family and even some business associates. We live in a very conservative, Southwestern town. Since I'm a musician, a few months ago I posted a listing on a musicians board and separately met three other musicians. I got the four of us together and we've formed a band of sorts. They are all hetero with wives and children and live in the same town as I do.

    I want to tell them I'm gay, but want to make sure my timing is right. Of course, under the circumstances, I didn't want to lead with that information since it might have been premature. (I never lead with it anyway, I'm an artist and a man who happens to be gay, not a Gay male artist.) I wanted to wait and see if we clicked musically before offering up this type of personal information. Living in a small town, I felt it was safer to be cautious. They both live very close to my house and well... you just never know what could happen.