Things To Do

[Lisbeth]

• Assume people will like you.
• Expect not to fail at anything you put your mind to.
• Lighten up.
• Refuse to let completely useless emotions like guilt and shame take refuge and thrive in your body.
• Ditto self-loathing.
• Laugh when people insult you.
• Stop trying to win over those who don't approve of you.
• Trust that you're worth knowing.
• Reject nagging insecurity and fear that you're too un/whatever to deserve success and happiness.
• Stop depending on lovers to make you feel worthy, attractive, smart, or whatever you wish you were.
• Set a bold example.
• Realize there's not one thing wrong in experiencing pleasure, even purely sexual pleasure with no other purpose or justification.
• Risk failure. Making mistakes does not equal failing. Not trying equals failing.
• Reject passivity, defensiveness, humorlessness.
• Stop blaming yourself.
• Stop blaming.

From Lesbianism Made Easy by Helen Eisenbach

[lisagurl]

Set a bold example.

Set a good example, "bold" will get into trouble every time. Be self confident.