Board hog tonite...How many of you changed sexual preference after HRT, etc?

[Rita Irene]

NOT " uninterested pig" I just think Im asking alot today....
anyway.......

Like, wanted a man and were attracted to them?

I love my wife and our relationship is AWESOME...I would hate to learn I was "hetero" after the process

[Ms.Behavin]

Well I added men to people I'm attracted too after HRT, But I still like women too'.  For me it's more the person, but I do notice guys alot more now.

Beni

[KarenLyn]

No changes for me. I always preferred men as sexual partners. (prefer but not exclusive to)

[Candygirl]

I was a bi-sexual before I started hormones. My initial preferences were for females, and guys as an appetizer or dessert when the mood struck me. There were only a few that I ever became intimate with, and they were more or less mentors/teachers.

After I was on full blown HRT for about 3 to 4 years, I could definitely feel a shift in my over all desires. Once I was no longer a member of the club, I viewed men, as women view them.  I began to feel more and more hungry for one, and loved to be around them or near them, if they tweaked my interest.  I still have great affinities for female relationships, but as close friends only. 
I dated those few guys during transition, and even though they really liked me, they were not who I wanted to end up with. I never wanted to be in a lesbian relationship...although I did have one female partner for a while...she was Bi as well.

So yes, I did change preferences in a vague way...but, by not being a "hetero" I suppose my HRT influences count differently

You may interested to know, that while transitioning, my therapist warned me that I would probably end up with a man...My Core Identity test revealed I wasn't a lesbian...but, would be after SRS, a Hetero-woman with a man. He was right!

Oh! they think they are so smart...            He was invited to my wedding years later, and shook my husbands hand, and congratulated him...

[Rita Irene]

Wheres the "core identity" test at?

[Candygirl]

Wheres the "core identity" test at?

It was the first part of my initial patient contact with my gender-identity dealing psychologist. I took a whole battery of tests, prior to counseling...I know it was because I had a particularly stressed and different kind of childhood, than that of mainstream America...

My parents were also interviewed about my wishes...they were my legal guardians when I was still 21 years old.  With reasons I posted else where here on this site...

I am not going to reveal the Doctors name here...He retired 5 years ago.  As I recall, it was called the "Gender Identity Core Test".

[Nero]

i'm bi, so i doubt it will change much. i just can't see being with another man again though.

[TamTam]

Rita, I hope I'm not overstepping anyone by adding my two cents.. I haven't experienced this so I could be completely wrong.. but I'm pretty sure that if you, right now, really love your wife and are attracted to women and everything.. that's not going to suddenly disappear or do a complete 180.  If you wind up being attracted to guys, that wouldn't necessarily stop you from being attracted to girls as well.  And even if you take a test that tells you something about yourself, your opinion is still the most important one.  Tests can make mistakes.

[Janet_Girl]

I was straight before HRT, and I guess I still am.  I am attracted to men now, but never before.  Could be the wiring in my mind.  But I am not opposed to dating another woman.  But for a partner, I am more prone to be attracted to the person, not the gender.  And because I am not opposed to dating a transperson, I guess that really makes me omnisexual.

Janet

[almost,angie]

Ive been on HRT a litttle over a year now and have no change. i am still totally into women. maybe even more than i was as well.

[iminadaze]

I also would say omnisexual before and after HRT, but when it comes to men I'm not really into the strong construction manly man types, I like the slightly femme long haired guys...soo yummy.... What am I thinking I'm committed to someone I shouldn't be thinking these thoughts. Thanks Rita gotta go take me a cold shower now.

[Northern Jane]

I was absolutely straight (attracted to men) until well after transition/SRS though I never did anything about it. Afterward I came to realize I was omnisexual because I was at ease with myself.

[tinkerbell]

I've always been 100% straight (pre-transition, pre-hrt, during-hrt, post-transition, post-SRS), meaning that I am attracted to men exclusively.  I am not sexually/romantically attracted to women at all, have NEVER been with one, and I don't plan to.  Additionally, I am one of those people who think that sexual orientation is innate, immutable, and personally I don't think that any amount of HRT could "change" it. 

tink

[Stealthgrrl]

Ive been on HRT a litttle over a year now and have no change. i am still totally into women. maybe even more than i was as well.

That's interesting. I have always just adored women and been strongly attracted to them. I actually had second thoughts about transitioning at one point, because the thought of losing that was like losing who I am, the idea really distressed me. But i went ahead anyway. As Angie said, I think I am even more attracted to other women now than I even was before. I think that's cos I "see" them better, from this side of the gender divide. As for men, I was never interested in men at all before (even though i was constantly being taken for a gay male) and now I do at least see what my straight gf's are on about, but i still don't want a man for myself.

I can only accurately speak for myself, but i suspect Tink is probably right, that it is inborn and immutable.

[Virginia87106]

I have seen my attractions change, but I am not sure HRT had anything to do with it.  I was on HRT for 7-8 years before I had sex with a guy.  But I found that I really enjoyed it, and that looking at a cock on a man was just like appreciating my cock, so it seemed very reasonable.
I am still more attracted to women's bodies than male, but I have seen that for the right guy, and can enjoy sex without regard for genitalia.

[Stealthgrrl]

^^ See, that's interesting to me, to hear someone else's experience, cos for me, I spent sooo long hating and wanting to get rid of my, er, twig n berries, that I can't imagine wanting to mess with anyone else's! Similarly, I spent a lot of my life trying desperately to get away from boys and men, and the last thing I want to do now is seek them out s'more. Ugh.

[Sandy]

Yeah, I am very much leaning toward being a hetero woman.

My feelings for the male of the species have changed dramatically since I completed my transition.  I am still very much in love with my partner, Pat, and she and I are committed to each other.  But,we both look at guys now.

I still look at women, but with a much reduced erotic feeling.  So I guess I'm bi now.

As others have mentioned here and in other threads, before transition, I would have been repulsed at the thought of having a man put his hands on me, and the whole idea of intercourse was no where near my top ten list.

Now...
Their rugged looks, their broad shoulders, their muscular bodies, um, yeah...  I still don't find anything particularly interesting in the male genitalia, but a tight butt is really hot!

Sorry, I have to go take a cold shower now.

-Sandy

[soldierjane]

No changes for me. I always preferred men as sexual partners. (prefer but not exclusive to)

Same.

[tinkerbell]

Reading people's experiences regarding this subject is interesting to me as well, for it only confirms what I suspect (and incidentally, I am talking about my own personal experience), that sexual orientation (or should I say... MY sexual orientation?) is innate and unchangeable.  You see, boys were never kind to me when I was growing up; they were indeed very mean, so I sometimes I wonder why I have always been drawn to them (sexually speaking) and  never "became" a lesbian or bi (pun intended). 

As far as *that thing* is concerned, *sigh*  I hated *it* on MY body, and consequently, I used to engage myself in these mental gymnastics and ignore *it* completely during sexual intimacy, meaning that I didn't touch *it* nor did I allow anyone to touch *it* or do things with *it*. 

Now it's totally different up here (mentally, I mean), and thankfully I no longer have to engage myself in any of those mental games to be intimate with the man I love....but that is an entirely different topic that doesn't belong here, I think


tink

[Butterfly]

I've always been 100% straight (pre-transition, pre-hrt, during-hrt, post-transition, post-SRS), meaning that I am attracted to men exclusively.  I am not sexually/romantically attracted to women at all, have NEVER been with one, and I don't plan to.  Additionally, I am one of those people who think that sexual orientation is innate, immutable, and personally I don't think that any amount of HRT could "change" it. 

tink

I'm with Tink here.  I'm strictly heterosexual too and I don't support any notion that sexual orientation can be changed.  It can be denied, or repressed, but not changed. And that's because it is what it is.  It's the position of the psychological community that one's orientation is an internal reality that is simply part of someone's being. The sexual urge is something that is 'programed' into the psyche from early on.

Some say we're all born 'bisexual'. What a load of nonsense. Babies are not sexual, especially when they are going through developmental stages and learning how to eat, walk, talk, socialise and learn motor and coordination skills. I never remembered experiencing attraction as a baby or child, only during my adolescent and adult years! And those who say if you've at least had the thought, you are bi, well, how can they answer for 'most; or 'all' people? They can't. Absolutely impossible! How can they claim to know people's mind and hearts if they're not inside their head?  I'd also like to add that if one is capable of becoming 'functionally bisexual', that is NOT a true bisexual orientation if s/he is not experiencing the feelings / attractions that define bisexuality. Makes perfect sense, but some are too immature in their thinking to own up the real truth.