Issues with my Father (Getting Better?)

[LynnER]

Well......... He has'nt kicked me out yet...... Dosnt look like he's going to.

We talked last night when I got home.  Hes still not happy, but he is copeing in his own way.

<My father> "You will allways be my son and are my eldest<sp?> child. I'll allways stand behind you.....  But if you fall I wont catch you and I wont hold or pick you up.  Your welcome to stay as long as you need to.  After talking to your mother I realized that this is what you 'think' you want and nothing is going to stop you till you deside otherwise.  I still love you, and I will allways love you.............. but I still think your makeing a mistake."

*Sighs*   It's not what I wanted to hear from him...... but its better than I'd been expecting recently.  Atleast I still have a home 

*Hugs*

[TheBattler]

Lynn,

I am so glad your father is starting to understand.

Hold your head High Lynn.

Hugs
Alice

[Bob]

He'll come around Lynn !  he will needs lots of time and education ! and YOU must educate him...
that is alot better than it could be... he'd trying to understand give him credit for that ! thats more than can be said for many !
glad to hear you still have a roof over your head !
no doubt that will help alot in the time to come !

I had those very same thoughts i might add.... "I love you but i still thinking your makeing a very big mistake"... but I finally realised that its a MEDICAL condition and not a Kinky prefrence of choice... it makes a world of diference ! especially to us old codgers !.... why ? heck i have no idea.... guess our up bringing ! ehhehehehe !
haing in there Lynn be paitiant !
...
Bob.....

[Luc]

Sounds like he's coming around, Lynn, slowly but surely. At least he hasn't dismissed your lifestyle outright, nor did he kick you out, which is what my folks would do. Progress, however arduous, is progress nonetheless.

Rafe

[tinkerbell]

At least he hasn't dismissed your lifestyle outright
Rafe

This is the main reason why family members and society in general don't want to understand us.  They think that being transsexual is a lifestyle  something that we choose for fun, pleasure or rebellion.  They don't realize that being transsexual is not a choice but a matter of life and death in most cases. 



tinkerbell

[Bob]

Indeed ! Very True Tinkerbell !
I just wish I could snap my fingers and everyone in the world would know what I know on the subject.... not that it is all incompassing by any means, after all i am still learning
but Any knowledge is better than absoultly none and that is the case of the avrage person .... absoultly No understanding of the subject ! which is extreamily unfortionate.
....
Bob.....

[sheila18]

tinker:
  well said! 
sheila18

[Chaunte]

At least he hasn't dismissed your lifestyle outright
Rafe

This is the main reason why family members and society in general don't want to understand us.  They think that being transsexual is a lifestyle  something that we choose for fun, pleasure or rebellion.  They don't realize that being transsexual is not a choice but a matter of life and death in most cases. 



tinkerbell

Tink,

You hit the nail square on the head!  This is who we are - how we are wired! 

Lynn, it sounds like you have reached a milestone with your parents.  It's a long road, but its a start.  Maybe the thing to do is educate you mother first and then she can help educate your father about being transgendered.

Chaunte

[Luc]

Sorry ladies and gentlemen, I didn't mean to conform to a stereotype, obviously. I meant no offense by using the word "lifestyle"... and I'm sorry if it was taken that way. I meant at least he isn't outright dismissing who you are, Lynn. Obviously, as an FtM myself, I don't believe for one second that being TS is a choice.

Rafe

[Melissa]

Yes, my parents have used the terms "lifestyle" and "choice" specifically.  Unfortunately, I still have no idea how to convince them otherwise.  I really wish I could offer some words of advice thought.   I have tried getting them to read a copy of true selves, but that didn't help.  Now I am just trying to give them time and space (boy that sounds like I'm giving a lot ) for them to adjust.  My therapist told me it is just denial that the problem really exists.  That's about the best I can help with. 

Melissa