I cant believe I did this!

[shychristine]

I have been seeing a therapist since Oct. and she has been every helpful. Any way she kept bring up why I havent told my mother who lives with me. I told her my mother is very old fashion and very close to her religion. After a few sessions I got the nerve to come out to my mother on Christmas eve. But that didnt happen and I told My tehrapist I could never get to that point where I have the nerve. I tried since Christmas to grt the nerve up to do it. Well New Years Eve I ( out of the blue ) decided to tell her at  midnight and failed again.
News Year Day I dont know why because I was not ready to do it, but I came out to her. I excepted her to break down and not accept it.
But I was the one who broke down crying and told her I was transgender, she remained calm and told me she was glad I came out to her and doing so on New Years Day, she said she loves me no matter what. I was not prepared for her to accept it or remain as calm as she did. My parents divorced when I was little and saw very little of my father. My mother told me my father was caught seveal times dressed as a woman in the mall. I was shocked and angered at the same time. If they would have told me early in my life I figured that would have save me years of suffering.
I dont dress in front of my mother yet, that might be pushing my luck or asking for too much too soon, but I promised her I would not go out dress as long as I can be outed. I will move slow as far as dressing in front of her but I am still in shock that I told her and of her support. She wants to know what can she do to help me and she wants to cry not knowing I  was suffering all these years. My mother is my best friend!

[Janet_Girl]

You and your Mom need a heart to heart talk.  If she is willing to offer help then seek it.  She just might enjoy having a daughter after all this time.  Bio girls learn things from their mother.  So you now have the opportunity  to learn from her.

Congrates on getting over a big step.


Janet

[kaitygrl]

Christine,
    Congratulations! You took a very big step and I'm proud of you. It takes so much courage to tell anyone and especially our families. You have reached a milestone that so many have not. Don't fall into the trap, questioning why you didn't do it earlier and continue moving forward.
    I would suggest you talk to your mother in more detail about what's going on with you. I can't imagine much more was said when you told her initially since so many emotions were involved. Try to get a better understanding of her feelings and allow her to do the same with you. If things went as well as they did, I would imagine, wearing your clothes around her will not be a major issue. Either way, talk to her and tell her what it is you want, but be compassionate and caring for her feelings as well. For all you know, she may assist you and teach you like a mother would a daughter.

[Mr. Fox]

Yay!
Adrian

[Wendy C]

Hon, enjoy these moments and use them as a bridge to your future but do not dwell on the past. You cant change it and trying to live there will be fruitless and take away from your sucesses now. I'm sure your Father had his reasons just as you have your own. I do so hope that you and your Mother will continue with the love you both share. Hugs

Wendy

[shychristine]

It has been a week since I came out to my mother and I am still in a fog. I still think that is all still a dream and it didnt happen. She has been so understanding and said that she is so sorry that I have been suffering since I was a kid. We talk about it every day and until yesterday I never dressed in front of her because I told her I was embrassed because she is my mother and I didnt want to hurt her. She told me not to be embrassed and it wouldnt hurt her. I am going to go about dressing in front of her slow, there is a old saying Too much Too soon and besides I need to adjust I never dressed in front of any one before.
I know she has some sticking points...she asked me if I wouldnt fo out dressed or do make up. She said that when she first saw my father in the mall (years ago) she got real upset because he looked so much like a guy in a dress. I told her That I look to much like a guy when I dress and dont plan on going out fully dressed until I could change that, as far as make up I suck at that right now. She did buy me a chain with a medallion with a pray on the back...."God please help me accept the things I cant change and the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the differance."

[gennee]

The people we least expect can be our biggest supporters. I'm so happy that you hurdled this barrier. You're wise to go slow. There's much to digest but you're mom is supportive and that's a BIG plus.

Gennee