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Started by colormyworld, June 18, 2009, 06:30:23 AM

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colormyworld

My mom is supportive of me in my choices and everything, even though she doesn't really understand the whole trans thing. Anyway, we had a good long chat today about all sorts of stuff, really just life in general and a lot about how I'm an emotional wreck 90% of the time! LOL But every time Em came up in conversation, my mom would say something like "You deserve so much better" or "ARe you sure that's what you want?" type of thing. I know she's just being the protective mom, but I dunno.. I just want a LOVING relationship where both parties are happy and no drama/lies/cheating. I could care less if the person that can give that to me is male or female, it's never been an issue to me.
I don't know how to get my mom to realize that maybe this is what's meant to be? I don't think she's necessarily *against* all this, but just really wishes it wasn't happening? I dunno..

We did come to an agreement that I'll start seeing another psychiatrist about my anxiety in general, and the next time I see the psychiatrist I'm currently seeing, we'll see about raising my doses of meds yet again.. (even though I hate being dependent on these chemicals, and raising the doses is NOT what I want to have to do..) but hopefully it'll cut down on my anxiety, and I can actually function like a normal human being for once.. Maybe if she knows I'm thinking straight again, she'll stop trying to nudge me in a different direction?


Anyone elses' parents try to convince you that you should find someone else?


*edit* As per usual.. Mom was right.. I do deserve better..  Oh well, live and learn.
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Starr

In a word, yes.  ;) There was a period in which everyone close to me kept trying to talk me out of it. They seemed to think that I had somehow talked myself into it because I had loved her so much before she came out to me. Finally, after many "Are you sure?" conversations, they all realize that I am. :)

I think age makes a big difference though. I'm sure it would have been a lot harder for my mom to come around if I were younger. Since I'm (ahem) plenty old enough to know myself, she accepted it fairly well.
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tekla

I just want a LOVING relationship where both parties are happy and no drama/lies/cheating.

Does not match up with....

how I'm an emotional wreck 90% of the time!

Obviously, your needs are not being met, and perhaps mom is right - they are right on occasion.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Miniar

There's no such thing as a 100% drama free relationship.
Fairytales lie to you.



"Everyone who has ever built anywhere a new heaven first found the power thereto in his own hell" - Nietzsche
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Janet_Girl

My Daddy only said one thing, "Not is My house". And that set the course of my life till he and Mom were gone.  Gods, I wish they could see me now.  I hope that they would be proud of thier daughter.

Janet
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colormyworld

Quote from: tekla on June 18, 2009, 10:21:24 AM
I just want a LOVING relationship where both parties are happy and no drama/lies/cheating.

Does not match up with....

how I'm an emotional wreck 90% of the time!

Obviously, your needs are not being met, and perhaps mom is right - they are right on occasion.

the "emotional wreck" I was referring to would be my anxiety which hasn't been in check my whole life. My worries are 10x worse than the average human being, and my hormones are outta whack so I'm overly sensitive and end up crying at stupid things and have no control over it.. Sometimes I feel like I have it under control and accept "this is me" and other times I just break down and think "Why can't I be 'normal' and just live my life without being pumped up with chemicals."
Many people just don't understand it, and honestly, sometimes I don't fully understand it all.
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Tammy Hope

Mom was okay with it, Haven't told pop and am in no hurry to. He lost a lot of ground with me a couple years ago on an unrelated matter.

But yeah, he gave me the "are you sure" talk about my mainstream marriage 20 years ago - he's always been a bit of a know-it-all like that. So far his worries have been pretty unfounded.
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Zelane

My bio mom was like... screw you. GO DIE already. I wish you were dead, etc, etc. It was kinda expected of her. She tried to made "come back to the good side" (again) and to prevent me doing things. She refused to go to therapy with me and she refuses to see me.

Well, she will never gets to meet me if that goes like that. A sad lost but not a huge one. I cant really miss what I never had.


My adoptive father on the other hand... was shocked but supportive and when I told him what I was feeling and what I wanted (and needed) to do. All he asked me was: Well, how those that are much older than you deal with this?

His insight was amazing. He has helped me a lot with transition and pay for stuff when needed (not like we have much anyway) Bad part is, he still screws the pronouns from time to time.
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finewine

If my parents find out that my gf is MtF, they will react the same way as all my friends would probably react if they found out too.  "What?  You're gay?  I had no idea!" etc..

Fortunately I don't need or require or even care if I have their approval.
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