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Started by katy19, January 15, 2009, 05:07:13 AM

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katy19

ok, so i'm back.  i've been away for quite a few months.  i was going through some stuff, like coming out to people, but also struggling with myself as well, i didn't know where to go or what to do.  My parents were sending me to a christian counselor rather than the therapist i asked for and i was being preached at by my parents, plus i went on a mission trip to argentina... i just felt like katheryn was going nowhere.  it got to the point where i almost deleted my account here, but that would mean shutting off my only support system i have.  I still don't know who i am.  I enjoy lots of things that the "stereotypical" male enjoys.  things like videogames, hard manual labor, gory action movies, things like that, but theres still this part of me who just wants to be beautiful and to throw away everything about my maleness.  A part of me who i've actually come to realized is somewhat attracted to males (this came as quite a shock to me).  I figured that in order to figure things out, i have to see for myself, in my own perspective.  so i'm back!!!!

I came out to a very good friend of mine and she agreed to someday, (when i have the money of course) go shopping for some womens clothing, makeup, and accessories and have a big photoshoot (by that i mean her taking pictures of me with a little digital camera) at her house.  My question was, what look should i go for?  when i've cd'd before, i've just rummaged through my sisters closet for whatever i could find, but now that i have a choice, i'm baffled.  idk if you could suggest anything based off my current profile picture, seeing as its the only picture i have at the moment, but if anything comes to mind, feel free to give me any suggestions. 
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Nicky

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Hey Katy,

That's really stink about the counselor.

You sound a bit guilty about liking those male things but I don't think it in any way invalidates who you feel you are inside. It is good that you are back, and talking about it.

My advise on clothing is to go with gut instinct. When you go shopping you will see stuff you like, just go with that. I suggest keep your outfits simple - cute top + a pair of jeans or a skirt with a nice necklace and your done. These sorts of things are easy to mix and match too.
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Sophie90

Hey sorry to hear you've been through all that...


As for clothes, it's all about finding your own style. You can be feminine without wearing uber-girly stuff. Clothes are about expressing yourself, so wear whatever the hell you like!
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lizbeth

hi katy, don't think I've seen you on here so I must have joined after you went on hiatus, so first of all Hello :)

that really sucks about the xtian counseling :(  was it as horrible as I can only imagine it was? or was it a fairly moderate counselor that at least tried to understand?

as for style, check out fashion mags. find a basic style that you like and then when you go shopping you at least have a sense of what style you are looking for. if it's specifically for a photoshoot then the sky is the limit, you can get away with wearing very different clothes when it's only for a photoshoot versus walking around at the mall.

you probably have girls that you work with or go to school with that you admire thair sense of fashion, try to mimick the things that you like. that can only get you so far due to body types and such, but once you have an idea what type of fashion you like, you can concentrate on clothes that suit you. there is a difference between what suits you and what you like.

hope that helps :)
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