Hi Nero, for me I was never that interested in physical sex and orgasms, most times when ever I did have an orgasm, in male mode, it was via masturbation. I was just not interested in having physical sex with male or female. in male mode there just wasn't realy all that much to it outside of a short duration climax.
I can see why some males would find it dificult to please a woman. A man may be able to do it twice maybe even three times in one night, but most times they can't even do more then once, disappointing realy. But I have known men that would die if they had to do without, and are good at pleasing a woman, but I would be a poor example in that manner.
Once I started transitioning it was a whole new ball game. After a couple of years on HRT things started waking up down there. Still via masturbation the orgasms intensified as the years went by to the point of the muscles in my legs spasming, never had that before. It was only 4 weeks after surgery that I had already regained most of my feelings down bellow and actually felt horny. Not long after I had a orgasm for the first time as a female, just doing the thing with the nipples and squeezing my legs together, and pop goes the weasel, just like you described a 'whole body' experience, crap I felt even the small hairs on the back of my neck and the top of my head standing up straight.
Holly smokes, one of the small wondrous pleasure of being a woman.

Cindy