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I Feel So At Home Here!

Started by Julie Marie, August 06, 2006, 05:52:01 PM

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stephanie_craxford

#20
August 08, 2006, 06:28:52 PM
Hey there Julie & Rana.

I agree with both of your replies, and in fact there may not be a problem here as Rana pointed out.  We simply have to respect others and forget this we/they attitude.  It is rude to refer to anyone or any group that is reading posts here as if they weren't here by referring to them as "those", "they", and "them", it's impolite and borders on disrespectful, use their names or titles.

Susan's is a place that every member of our community can feel at home.  And for many this site has become their home.  It's up to us to keep it that way.  :)

Steph
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TheBattler

#21
August 08, 2006, 06:52:43 PM
Quote from: Steph
Alice why not take the lead in this and start something, something that YOU feel needs addressing, something that you need answers to.  There is always a danger of divisions within a community, it's perfectly natural.  Of course in doing this you will get advice from "the community" and from that you and others just need to separate the wheat from the chaff.  Jilleann put it quite nicely.

Well I should add that I have never felt alone here at Susans as I continue on my life's path. I have found there are many here that I have related to and I have made many good friends.

I am now looking outside Susan's to see what I have in comon with other CDs and to see how I relate to them.  I may end up relising that I am indeed TS and this is the site for me. However I still do not wish to transistion - I have been a relativly happy male all of my life dispite my TG feelings and I would be happy if I could continue to live as a male. I want the choice that many in here have said they did not have and I need to ensure I get a balanced view of the TG spectrim.

Alice
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Jillieann Rose

#22
August 08, 2006, 07:59:54 PM
Alice do what you need to do to find out where you fit in the transgender spectrum.
If you really need to. I'm not alway sure where I fit in but that okay with me.
I would sure hate to see you leave.  :'(
You have helped me by expressing some of your fears and I'm sure you have helped many other people here too. I think you are a very strong person because you will face your fear were as some like me just usually hid them. You have helped me to face some of them.
Other  may never say thanks but I will.
Thank you Alice I consider you my friend.
:)
Jillieann
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TheBattler

#23
August 08, 2006, 08:06:33 PM
Jilliean,

I am not leaving as I have learnt so much here at Susans and I have been able to face my fears.

You have also taught me a lot about how this whole life evolves. We both have faced similar fears etc and we are both looking for out place in this world. You are a great person who I will always consisder a friend. The friends I have made here is one of the reason I will never leave - I love to hear what everyone is doing.

I do feel it best however it I broaden my horizons to balance what I have found here.

Alice
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Jillieann Rose

#24
August 08, 2006, 08:26:44 PM
Alice I'm glad you will be staying because Susan's is a better place because of you.  :D
Your Sister TG,
:)
Jillieann
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cindianna_jones

#25
August 09, 2006, 12:50:17 AM
Sometimes I wonder.... why am I here?  ;)

I don't know really.  It is pretty fun to get everyone's insight.  I know that I come off brassy sometimes and I certainly don't mean to do so.

Cindi
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sheila18

#26
August 09, 2006, 02:31:47 AM
what am i ?  cold lettuce?   :D :D

sorry, CD, TG, TS  to is all the same.  Here is why for me:
I am a Transexual and if I had the money I would take the SRS in a ny minute.
with me so far?
because I Have not had SRS's nor had HRT that makes me a CrossDresser right?

This is the sad part of our predicament when we want to tailor our community to fit our specific needs and trim our tree to be just right, than we lose sight of the whole TG/TS forest.   :(
  What makes this forum works in my opinion is the mix the integration of CD, TS, TG,  M2F, F2M Significant Others, straight  friends, ...
because we talk about life issues in general and life happens to us all, if this was a forum just to exchange fashion  or make-up tips versus hormone dosage tips I would understand the alienation factor.

So please think it over because otherwise we are talking about every body going to their respective corners ...if it comes to that well that is life  however it seems to me that the reason why people feel like this is home is because is like in a home where your mom is a male your dad a female your brother  a skinhead your sister is autistic and you are ... well you  ;)   All together.  :)
  this is my 2 dollars worth ( a buck isn't much anymore)
sheila18
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Julie Marie

#27
August 09, 2006, 06:07:26 AM
Quote from: sheila18 on August 09, 2006, 02:31:47 AMbecause I Have not had SRS's nor had HRT that makes me a CrossDresser right?

sheila18

Being a TS, TG or CD is more a state of mind than what you do physically.  I have been a transsexual all my life simply because I have wanted to be a girl all my life.  A crossdresser likes to dress in the clothing of the opposite sex but would never want SRS.  Some may want to dabble in hormones but I'll bet most who would wouldn't like having boobs when they wanted to go to the beach and look good for the babes.  If you want to be on HRT and have SRS then you are a transsexual.
When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.
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Buffy

#28
August 09, 2006, 06:39:25 AM
We are all here as we are part of a "Community"......The majority of us could be considered a minority in the eyes of the general population, lets leave it there.

I don't do labels.... TS, CD, Bi, TV whatever. I read the CD threads, the FTM threads and any I am interested in.

I post because I enjoy posting, I respond because I enjoy responding.......I enjoy reading about peoples feelings, experiences, hopes, desires and fears.

I have seen enough debates and antagonism around the merits of being TS v CD and others.... Lets not go there. I don't question why the FTM's want to be men, I admire them for that. If people enjoy dressing in Female clothes because it makes them happy, feel good... great

Whether it is physical, mental, curiosity or plain insanity that brings us to this forum, we all have a right to be here.

No one, group is better than anyone else, there is enough discrimination in the "real world" without bringing debates into a safe and happy forum for everyone.

Buffy

Already hacked off after a bad day.....

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TheBattler

#29
August 09, 2006, 06:39:39 AM
Quote from: Julie Marie on August 09, 2006, 06:07:26 AM
Quote from: sheila18 on August 09, 2006, 02:31:47 AMbecause I Have not had SRS's nor had HRT that makes me a CrossDresser right?

sheila18

Being a TS, TG or CD is more a state of mind than what you do physically.  I have been a transsexual all my life simply because I have wanted to be a girl all my life.  A crossdresser likes to dress in the clothing of the opposite sex but would never want SRS.  Some may want to dabble in hormones but I'll bet most who would wouldn't like having boobs when they wanted to go to the beach and look good for the babes.  If you want to be on HRT and have SRS then you are a transsexual.

Sheila,

What you just described is exactly what I TS would describe. I identify myself as a CD as I do not want to transistion. Why I want to wear skrts and dresses I do not know - it is something inside me that I can not control - wearing a skirt just makes me happy and is shows I have a big feminine side.

We had a big discussion a few months ago about the difference between CDs and TS. I do not want to go back to that debate as I still think we have a lot in common which is why I have been here for a long time. If you wish I can point you to those threads as so you have a better understanding of why I wish there where more CDs here at Susans.

Alice

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cindianna_jones

#30
August 09, 2006, 07:06:24 AM
I have a hard time discerning differences beetween TS, CD, whatever.  For every person, there's a new level of creativity. That's how I see it... creativity.  We create an image of ourselves and then try to climb into it.  So when I think of us versus them, I have a real difficult time placing people in any kind of category. But for us it's some level of gender uncertainty and great creativity compared to just your plain old average normal person.

Cindi
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sheila18

#31
August 09, 2006, 04:10:31 PM
julie:
  thank you for agreeing, that was my point.  ;)

   LAbels and boxes is what got our community in the predicament we are among the general population.
So why have labels and boxes here? It makes no sense to me. 
  We are here because we identify and meet people who understand what we say and our experiences our "State of Minds" as  julie said.   Not because we "know the meaning of a labels"  lets leave that to the scientists, is my opinion only, life will go where it will, i can't stop it am not god thank god  :D
sheial18
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