who did you lose?

[jaded]

i was just wondering who all of you have lost in transition?

[Christo]

Been very lucky. I didnt lose nobody. My family's cool w/everything. my mom to.

[jaded]

you are very lucky!
not all of us are.... i lost most of my family and right now im not doing well with this.
i miss having family my family the 1 i was born into. i miss being a part of family events and gatherings.im angry and hurt that i missed  my sisters wedding and now i will miss out on meeting my new neices and nephews as well as missing the ones i already know and love.
i miss my brother whom which i didnt speak to for nearly 2 years because i am dead to him.
i miss being around people i love.
i knew it was going to be hard but never really believed their love wont be strong enough. i was wrong.
i was in and out the the hospital most of this year nearly died several times and didnt get as much as a phone call or letter to see how ii was doing....
even when the doc called and told them i might not make it!
i am happy with the way I turned out in my transition and I love that i have me finally it just really sucks that i have no1 to enjoy it with.,
no wods people say are comfoerting.
i feel as though the only people that understand are those that where in the camps like my grandparents who had their entire family taken away from them simply because of who they where born.

[mina.magpie]

I'm sorry sweetie. I hope that they will come around one day, but don't wait for them. Instead, build close friendships, find a partner, live your life fully. Maybe even adopt one day. I know it's not the same, but sadly we can't make those choices for people.

Just completely off-topic ... You're too handsome (and I mean positively raowwwwwr)  Please change your avatar so we won't all go weak in the knees every time you post something.

J/K, but still. Seriously.

Mina.

[Jay]

My best friend.. of 6/7 years.. he couldn't accept it so I didn't bother with him.. Everyone else has been fine.

Its very true what you say about having a family and being involved.  But my family doesn't know and I rarely see them too. Its only my immediate family that know as the rest of them would probably disown my immediate family and I wouldn't want that.

I feel for you bro.

Looking good on your profile pic

[christov]

everyone in my family except an aunt an uncle.

[Linus]

Thus far no one. My grandmother is presently refusing to refer to me as per my chosen name or as her grandson but I give her leeway because of her age (she's in her 80s and has been through more than most people; plus I only see her once a year at most). The same has been asked of me in regards to my half-sister (she suffers from Turner's Syndrome, schizophrenia/paranoia/severe OCD and was witness to my mom's murder -- she basically wouldn't be able to understand this process). Both of these I respect. Everyone else has been positive and supportive. I've yet to lose anyone, even my father who's a staunch Catholic and conservative.

I suspect it's because I rarely see them in general so that's all good.

[Nero]

nobody so far. course there's family who dont know and probably don't really need to know as i only see them once a funeral.

[Yochanan]

I haven't lost anyone (even my biomom, now that she knows for sure!), but I am so, so absolutely terrified of my brother not accepting me. I think he's got a little bit of transphobia going on because of our father (she's MTF). I'll just about die if he shuns me. =/

[Dennis]

Just one whacko spouse, who I haven't missed at all. Oh, but I did miss the dog for quite some time.

Dennis

[Dresdin Storm]

I got very lucky for the most part. My grandparents are really weird about it but are starting to come around. My mom took it the hardest but we have talked a lot and she has went to some therapy sessions with me. They helped her out a lot.  Within the past 2 months she has become almost totally excpeting. The rest of my family was ok with it from the beginning.

[Arch]

Just one whacko spouse, who I haven't missed at all. Oh, but I did miss the dog for quite some time.

Dennis

Sorry about the dog, Dennis. That bites.

[Jay]

course there's family who dont know and probably don't really need to know as i only see them once a funeral.

I love how you put that. Made me chuckle..

Oh, but I did miss the dog for quite some time.

Dennis

Dogs are hard to let go of, more than people!

[Dev]

Well, as of this point....
Both my parents have passed
My sister knows my plans and seems okay with it, but is not happy about it. Not sure if she told her husband.
Rest of my blood relatives... I either don't speak to them really or I already disowned for other reasons.
As for friends.... Well, if I had any, they are now gone except 2 and I am engaged to one of them.

So I currently live a very private unsociable life.  I do have a social life, but I don't make friends in the process just because so far 99% of them were not really friends to begin with.  My social circles revolve around the gym and sports and I am never in one place too long, so maybe now I am to the point I will be settling down I can finally have some friends.

On the positive side, my fiancee's parents are aware of my life, plans and are totally cool with it.  We even had a longtalk about us having children and their biggest concern was not anything to do with me but just being able to support the child financially.   I thought that was one of the coolest days in my life because there are people who accept me (and invite me on family vacations)

[GnomeKid]

No one yet.
My family is cool with it, and even fronted me the money for my top surgery.  Other than my immediate family I don't particularly care if they accept me or not as I only see them once every few years and its normally really boring.

My best friend/ex/room mate is completely cool with it and has supported me more than anyone through it.  As far as my other friends one pretty much always knew (we made gender confusion jokes about me all the time =p) well I'm sure most knew, but at this point I've told everyone in my daily life that I actually talk to that I had the surgery so they know at least that much and no one was like "WTF"

I really doubt anyone would care, I'm pretty sure everyone who knows me at all would expect it.

[darius82501]

I haven't lost anyone as of yet. My family have been supportive but it is challenging everyday for them to understand. My friends in college that know have been great and I am telling more of them as my plans to transition are becoming more of a firm reality.

I think this will be more of a problem as I attempt to go to grad school or get a job while transitioning. 

[Kristian]

I hate re-does. Jaded i wrote you an empassioned letter back and lost it. it's in cyber space. Jaded I lost them all. My choice really. I didn't want them to be hurt. It was the 70's. NOT everything went. Gay's were fun.(guys). Lesbians were dirty movies. I lost parents, 3 brother, 6 nieces - my whole world. I found people who would love me for me. Some of you will find that love really 'IS'. They really love you; no matter what. Other's will not be as fortunate. I was fortunate in friends and strenght. I refused to die. I believed I had a reason to exist and I plowed on. So must you. You will meet friends along the way. They will become family. You will not care where they come from. They accept you, you accept them. I believe that TG's are special. We get to be both, we get to live the worst and the best. We must live.

[vanna]

I hate re-does. Jaded i wrote you an empassioned letter back and lost it. it's in cyber space. Jaded I lost them all. My choice really. I didn't want them to be hurt. It was the 70's. NOT everything went. Gay's were fun.(guys). Lesbians were dirty movies. I lost parents, 3 brother, 6 nieces - my whole world. I found people who would love me for me. Some of you will find that love really 'IS'. They really love you; no matter what. Other's will not be as fortunate. I was fortunate in friends and strenght. I refused to die. I believed I had a reason to exist and I plowed on. So must you. You will meet friends along the way. They will become family. You will not care where they come from. They accept you, you accept them. I believe that TG's are special. We get to be both, we get to live the worst and the best. We must live.

What Kristian says hunny,

The only people you really loose are people that didnt want you and are they really then a loss? only for a short while until you realise that.

Go on with your life Jaded, its worth soo much more than any hate.

[jaded]

wow! thanx you all so much for the warm response!
its amazing to hear all of your stories whatever i did hear and i appreciate it!

[Walter]

Haven't really lost anyone yet but if my dad ever found out what I was thinking he would shun me. I don't really know what would happen if my family found out