who did you lose?

[GQjoey]

I've been blessed with the people that matter most (mom, dad, brother, g parents). Lost plenty of "friends", and family. But like I've always said, family IS what you make it. The people that stray away, don't matter, in the least. Live your life, and do what makes YOU happy!

Jaded - I admire you for pushing through and doing what makes you happy. I don't know what it's like to be alone in this long hard road, and it definitely takes one hell of a soldier to do it alone. Mad props bro!

[jaded]

again id like to thank you all for the response ....and for the record i have lost alot and its hard as hell at times BUT and this is a big but i have myself for the first time in a long time and i cant trade that for anything in the world!

[milliontoone]

I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you to not be able to have contact with your family.  I haven't lost anyone yet but then I haven't told everyone yet either, I don' think my mother will take it too great but I don't think I will lose her either at least I hope not.
In fact I don't think any of my family are going to take it too great except maybe my brother Thomas, we are very close and have always related more like brothers anyway.
I guess I am relatively lucky as I have a truly supportive partner although I definately have a difficult family.

[perfectisolation]

Sorry you lost your family cause of this, jaded. They must come around eventually. Have you tried showing them any articles or books about TS? As folks have said, find people who love you for you. I can't imagine the pain of being rejected by my family like that. So far only my parents know and they're accepting, but the rest of my family is kind of religious so I dunno how it'll turn out..
I can't get over how great you look in your avatar pictures tho! Sorry if I sound nosy but do you have any more photos?

[Hazard "AJ"]

Right now no one but not everyone nows.. But i never see aunts and uncles Ect only brothers and sisters and most of them now. my step dad is cool as is my mum lil sister and older sister. i dont think my 2 older brothers now. but im sure one of them will be cool with it. But i think its more hard for men to understand them women. i dont now if that from my experience or what.. The one person i wont tell till this start changing (as in look) of course people will notice. its my dad im more worryed about.  due to the fact his so old fationed. the funny thing is he only want to take notice with somethink he dont like.. any other time he dont give a crap.. so there for i wont be losing him cuz i dont fill i have him.. I hate my father

[Janet_Girl]

Just ran across this post. So here goes. 
Lost my wife, sort of.  We separated because of my GID.  But it is funny, we are now in contact again.  Off and on, but still as friends.
Step son, Thank the Goddess.  Turns out he isn't the man I thought he was.  A lier, cheat and abusive.
And my parents.  Both passed over before I came out.
Some friends, but they don't count any more.

Gained my family here.  More women friends than I even thought I would have.

Janet

[Dennis]

again id like to thank you all for the response ....and for the record i have lost alot and its hard as hell at times BUT and this is a big but i have myself for the first time in a long time and i cant trade that for anything in the world!

Is that you in your avatar bro? Cause you look frickin awesome if it is. You looked great in your last avatar too. And you're right, having you is way more important than having others. You will either get your family back or choose a family if you're comfortable in yourself.

Dennis

[Scratchy Wilson]

I haven't really lost any family members...I haven't exactly told everyone. They've all noticed the changes, and seem to be a little confused, but no one has asked me or said anything about it. Everyone does know about my name change, so I'm sure they're kind of getting the jist of things.

I have lost one person during transition, but not because of my transition. I burried my best friend in September, it was very unexpected so it was a huge blow to everyone. He was a good man, and probably the best friend a guy could have. He was one of very few of my friends that knew about my transition, and he completely understood who I am. He was one of the best human beings I've ever met in my life.

[Luc]

I thought about this one for a long time, and it might not be due to transition and whatnot, but who I lost, for awhile anyway, was myself.

Considering that my beginning transition happened to coincide with my marriage, I think I just got so into taking on the role of man and husband that I forgot who I really was. I let a lot of things go by the wayside, including things that used to define me. Now, being at a distance from the tenuous life I created, I see what I abandoned, and I am furiously attempting to regain it.

Don't lose yourselves in the pursuit of what you think you want.

SD

[transjosh]

I have lost my father and step-mother, which is okay with me because I didn't really have all of them before I told them.  However that being said, I feel as though I may be losing my brother and that kills me.  He lives with them and I can only imagine the horrible things they tell him.  He just graduated High School and is still very influenced by my father.  My mother had a hard time at first but is now talking to my and my fiance and is really starting to come around.

[jaded]

again thank you all for the response im not very good at checking these things lately my life as been a bit insane!
but yes that is me in the avatar:) i have been getting my weight up again which is VERY good ( i was down to 103 lbs) and im 5'
sabastian i what you said made a lot of sense and i think think with "time" you might get that bit of you back (especially now...)
and josh all i can say is i understand how hard it is 1 of the hardest things somtimes are losing those who dont get to make a choice about seeing you because "adults" make that choice for them or influence then the way theyu want...