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Coming out (again)

Started by Jessica M, February 05, 2009, 10:18:55 AM

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Jessica M

ok so when i was about 11 or 12 i came out to my mam, I wrote a letter which she found before i finished when she was ''cleaning''. Althouth she was too respectful of my feelings and intelligence at the time to dismiss it as a phase to my face i know by what she did say, ('I'm not sure of what to do about that' , 'Your brothers wouldnt understand') that she thought and hoped (probably) it would all pass.
I don't blame her for it she did what she thought was best for her eldest son and she really didn't know anything about trans issues at all. In the years since the feeling of everything about my body being so wrong intensified but i hid it all. I joined sports teams (even joined a rugby team in october )so no one would suspect a thing. I've waited on big changes in my life to try and come out again. Leaving school, starting uni, my 18th all passed and i said nothing but i have to do it soon coz its killing me.my biggest concern isn't my parents , they wont be thrilled but i doubt they'll disown me or anything, its my brothers (they really wont understand) and my friends who some of them will ffreak out and some of them may or may not be cool with it. i'm gonna go join a support group and the LGBT at college anyway.
This is more for my own therapeutic affect of telling someone than an actual topic but any feedback or advice would be appreciated.

Claire! XOX
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LivingInGrey

That's one of the things I've feared all my life. How would the people around me react to my telling them I'm not happy with myself? I've recently come clean to my SO of ten years and it went surprisingly well except for her telling me no matter what I do if I can't give her kids she'll have to rethink our relationship.

Telling her made some things easier, some things harder.

This is one of the things I find hard to talk about because each person has different situations. It's just one of those things that you'll have to prepare for the worst but hope for the best.

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