crossdresser to transsexual

dominique1 · February 11, 2009, 09:03:34 AM

Hi ,I have been crossdressing for a long time and I also wished that i was a girl.I have recently decided that I do want to change my sex.
Since I love "Susan's place " I thought I should start here for advice and direction.
Thanks Dominique

mina.magpie · February 11, 2009, 09:10:47 AM

Many people go through a period where they identify as CD rather than TS while they come to more and more of an acceptance of themselves, so you definitely don't have to feel alone, and I'm sure you'll find plenty of advice and support here.

Mina.

dominique1 · February 11, 2009, 10:08:17 AM

Thank you Mina.
Dominique

paulault55 · February 11, 2009, 02:23:28 PM

Although i did not do allot of crossdressing over the years i did identify as female inside. My advise as many will tell you is find a gender therapist, they usually see you a minimum of three months before you get the letter to start hrt. This is nothing to take lightly, you need to be absolutely sure this is the direction you need to go because at a certain point there is no turning back, that's why a therapist is so important. I was so afraid of going to a therapist and so desperate to transition that for the last 9 months i was self medicating, but it felt so right i sought out a gender therapist and next week i will be seeing an Endo to finally do my transition the right way, the way i should have done it in the begining.

Paula.

dominique1 · February 12, 2009, 07:26:08 AM

Hi Paula,your advice is well taken.I knew I would get the right kind of advice in this forum.I may have sounded like I made the decision to transition lightly but I really didn't.I have been thinking about it for a long time but was scared to follow up on it.So how do I find a gender therapist?Are they in the phone book and are they psychologists with a specialty in gender identity problems.
Thanks again Paula
Dominique.

paulault55 · February 12, 2009, 08:16:33 AM

Go to Susan's front page and go down to medical, there are therapists listed, you didn't say which stare but if there are none close you try looking in the phone book and start calling around, you want to try to find a therapist that has some experience in gender identity issues if you can.

Paula.

samantha1976ts · February 12, 2009, 08:33:21 AM

hello! i can't speak for others, but for me i thought i was just a c/d i started dressing up when i was around 10 or 11 yrs old, but as i got older i started feeling more and more like a girl inside and wanting to be one. rather i have always felt this way i just didn't come to ful terms of who i really was until i was around 32 yrs old and now im a pre op transsexual, but thats not how all people feel.so if you feel like you are a female on the inside and want to change, you have to see a therapist to reach the core of why and how to get what you desire, and i assume that is happiness. so go for it if you feel that way but make sure you have all the support you can gather up. friends family and so on..
now this is only my thoughts i have no need to convince you of who or what you should be. only you can decide..good luck.

dominique1 · February 12, 2009, 09:57:56 AM

Thank you Samantha,I appreciate your opinion.
Dominique

Post Merge: February 12, 2009, 10:15:40 AM

Thanks for the tip Paula.
Dominique

Chrissty · February 14, 2009, 08:35:58 AM

Hi Dominique

I have had a similar experience to you, and I didn't realise that I was transexual till I was 48.

For most of my life I had the feelings and the signs, but for some reason I always found an alternative explanation for them.

Take Care...

Chrissty

Krissy_Australia · February 16, 2009, 12:54:39 AM

Hi Dominique

I crossdressed from an early age for all of my life. I really didnt think much of it apart from periods of guilt and shame. When I was 36 something changed in me and the urge grew stronger to more complete myself. By 38 I was predominately going to clubs as a girl. By 39 I had incorporated a more feminine appearance and gesture without feeling embarressed by it into my everyday life. And now I have been on HRT for 3 months and Im moving from my family to lead my life in more of a female role.

For me its something that I just cant or would want to stop. Many times Ive asked myself the question is it all worth throwing my known family life away and whether I could just stop it all. The answer always comes back the same. If I was meant to be male I wouldnt be female

dominique1 · February 17, 2009, 08:39:59 AM

Hi Chrissty,Thank you for responding, it's nice to know that there are other people out there who feel like I do.It's a horrible feeling to think that you might be the only one.
Thanks Dominique

Post Merge: February 17, 2009, 08:43:07 AM

Hi Krissy -aussie,congratulations to you ,I hope everything is going great for you.People like you are an inspiration to me .
Thanks Dominique

Chrissty · February 17, 2009, 09:09:50 AM

Quote from: dominique1 on February 17, 2009, 08:39:59 AM
Hi Chrissty,Thank you for responding, it's nice to know that there are other people out there who feel like I do.It's a horrible feeling to think that you might be the only one.
Thanks Dominique

One thing I have learnt on this site is that we are all 'unique'...
...but when it comes to problems and histories, we are rarely the 'only one'

The tricky bit, is finding a way to adapt all the advice we pick up, so that it will work for our personal circumstances..

Chrissty

dominique1 · February 17, 2009, 11:30:32 AM

Chrissty your so right.
Dominique

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