Elwood, I think there's quite a few of us who would like to be taller, but it's one thing about ourselves we can't change. So, the idea is to accept what we can change and what we can't.
We could be sour all we want about our height because it's not what we'd like, but that doesn't get us anywhere. Genetic guys and girls aren't automatically happy with their heights because it's not like they get to decide and we don't. Not all confidence can be gained by being taller or shorter or taking hormones or surgeries. We have to learn to be happy with ourselves, even if we dislike or hate our parts, because we're never going to be happy about ourselves unless we do. The more we accept ourselves and the things we cannot change, the more effective transition will be because it obviously doesn't cure everything as much as we'd like to believe. A lot of the insecurities you take into transition will still be there afterwards.
I can't tell you or anyone how to think about their body. That's completely up to that individual. What I will say is that when I kept thinking about the taller girls and men and dwelling on it, I was unhappy because I made it a big deal. Now instead of saying to myself, "I'm not this, I'm not this..." I'm telling myself the advantages of being shorter and I'm a lot happier because I'm dwelling on the positive. Thinking and dwelling about what I don't have, that I either can't change or wont be able to change for a long time always made me feel horrible, so I try to look on the positive side. Whether that's me being comfortable with the things I cannot change or holding onto the hope that one day I will be able to change something about myself. Inner peace is really powerful.
