Susan's Place Logo

News:

Based on internal web log processing I show 3,417,511 Users made 5,324,115 Visits Accounting for 199,729,420 pageviews and 8.954.49 TB of data transfer for 2017, all on a little over $2,000 per month.

Help support this website by Donating or Subscribing! (Updated)

Main Menu

Will going on T "turn" an asexual person?

Started by petzjazz, February 19, 2009, 01:00:37 AM

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Print
Go Down Pages1
User actions

petzjazz

February 19, 2009, 01:00:37 AM
I've heard of a lot of transguys turning gay after transitioning (and I firmly believe that people can and do "turn gay") - that is, their sexual attractions "switching" from almost all female to almost all male. But were any of you (no matter your sexual attractions now) almost or completely asexual before T? I don't mean in a "not comfortable with your own parts" way, I mean in a "just not terribly interested, thanks" way. I know T increases the libido a lot, but generally guys have SOME sort of libido before going on it - and I don't (I've never been seriously sexually attracted to anyone). I guess I'll find out the answer in a few months (when I start), but I'm just wondering if anyone else felt that way pre-T, and what happened.     
   

  •  

Aiden

#1
February 19, 2009, 01:15:54 AM
Lets just say 2 months ago I could look at a man or woman and not care less.  didn't have much attraction that way either way, very little labido.  Now being on T 2 months I'm starting to wander if I am bi or just really labido crazed because I'll get twitchy and raved around either one.  Though I think part of the intensity is because body still adjusting to it.  But definantly it increases it, even if not think have any.  Though could be wrong and it probably can effect others in different ways.
Every day we pass people, do we see them or the mask they wear?
If you live under a mask long enough, does it eventually break or wear down?  Does it become part you?  Maybe alone, they are truly themselves?  Or maybe they have forgotten or buried themselves so long, they forget they are not a mask?
  •  

Lachlann

#2
February 19, 2009, 01:24:32 AM
The increased libido could probably spark something in you to question your sexuality, but as far as changing orientation, I don't think it has much to do with hormones as it does with personal sexual exploration.

I've heard that a woman's sexuality is quite fluid and prone to change more than a man's, however, I wouldn't know if hormones fixates something or if it just stays the same. It probably will increase your libido as it does in most cases and will probably get you to think about it, though.

I've also heard of gay ftms finding themselves to be straight, pan sexual or bisexual when they go on hormones.

Maybe you will be attracted to someone sexually if you feel more comfortable in your body on hormones. I guess you can't exactly tell until it happens as everyone has a different story.
Don't be scared to fly alone, find a path that is your own
Love will open every door it's in your hands, the world is yours
Don't hold back and always know, all the answers will unfold
What are you waiting for, spread your wings and soar
  •  

JonasCarminis

#3
February 19, 2009, 01:36:34 AM
before hormones i was horny a lot anyways and was pansexual.  i preferred outies to innies though.  i am 3 weeks on T and at this point, i dont care if it has wild flailing tenticals.  if its breathing were good. :P  thats just for turning on though.  im actually in a monogamous relationship with another trans guy.
  •  

Elwood

#4
February 20, 2009, 07:28:01 PM
I was attracted to cisgendered men before T. Now I feel attracted to transgendered men. Mostly because of my penis-related dysphoria, but also because transmen look younger, have interesting features, and they understand me.
  •  

Nero

#5
February 20, 2009, 07:34:06 PM
Re: Will going on T "turn" an asexual person?

i doubt it. just look at the huge number of asexual mtfs.
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
  •  

Aiden

#6
February 20, 2009, 07:44:03 PM
mtf take estrogen which lessens sex drive.  think the question because T increases it.
Every day we pass people, do we see them or the mask they wear?
If you live under a mask long enough, does it eventually break or wear down?  Does it become part you?  Maybe alone, they are truly themselves?  Or maybe they have forgotten or buried themselves so long, they forget they are not a mask?
  •  

Nero

#7
February 20, 2009, 07:46:13 PM
Quote from: Aiden on February 20, 2009, 07:44:03 PM
mtf take estrogen which lessens sex drive.  think the question because T increases it.

yeah but i meant even before estrogen, a lot of them aren't very sexual.
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
  •  

BunnyBee

#8
February 20, 2009, 10:02:40 PM
It is difficult for a woman to feel sexy as a man, and I'm sure a man likewise needs to feel manly to feel sexy.

It's all in the feedback, much of which comes from within (as we learn to see ourselves for who we truly are,) but the feedback from without is a matter which can't be ignored.  The way people talk to you and treat you, the image in the mirror, blah blah blah.  When these things say "man" yet your brain says "woman" it causes feelings of dissonance.  When it comes to amorous times, if your partner is coming on to you as though you are the wrong sex, well for me it made the whole deal an experience I would avoid as best I could possibly manage.

As my mind and body have started to become more in tune with my internal gender, I have begun to see everything in the world ...differently.  It's so similar to the first time I put on glasses and suddenly I could see the blades of grass in the lawn.  I remember going, oh grass doesn't look like carpet ..weird.

I haven't even got very far yet and I have already noticed a lot of changes in my sexuality, as in I'm beginning to realize it exists.  Changes is the wrong word, emergence is better.

For an FTM, Testosterone should not only help with the image issues, but also the chemical itself has the specific effect of increasing one's sex-drive.  Surely there are no guarantees, but it would make sense taking the hormone would probably help awaken a dormant sexuality, if it is there.
  •  

kestin

#9
February 20, 2009, 10:09:50 PM
I think when a transpersons sexuality changes after being on hormones, is due to the fact they're becoming more comfortable with their own body and thus, being sexual (or wanting to be) becomes easier. So in answer to the original poster, I guess it depends on whether their asexuality is caused by their desphoria or not *shrugs*

I did for a long period of time identify as Asexual. Not that I didn't feel sexual feelings, but I didn't have much interest in putting them into play or to pursue someone. It didn't matter much to me in the grand scheme of things.

But now, (and officially 6 months on T today!) I have much, much more interest in pursuing XD and now I don't even care what sex they are... mostly I'm finding out what I thought was just me 'wanting to look like a man' there is actually some sexual feelings there too. Plus, pre-T, the concept of being with a guy felt like it would emphasise me being female, which just shut down all my interest -_- and I've found I really only like gay and bi boys anyway.

In a nutshell, I'm much more confident about my body and being sexual with someone doesn't freak me out any more.
  •  

BunnyBee

#10
February 20, 2009, 10:21:49 PM
Quote from: kestin on February 20, 2009, 10:09:50 PM
I think when a transpersons sexuality changes after being on hormones, is due to the fact they're becoming more comfortable with their own body and thus, being sexual (or wanting to be) becomes easier.

Yep I've found this to be absolutely true and I've heard of it being a pretty common thing even among mtfs.  Y'all get the double whammy of increasing the "sex-drive" chemical in your bodies, instead of reducing it.
  •  

Randy

#11
February 23, 2009, 10:56:57 AM
idk, my orientation has stayed exactly the same, but if ANYTHING can "turn an asexual person", I'd think it would be T.  :P That's some powerful stuff...
  •  
Print
Go Up Pages1
User actions