Could I Be Androgyne?

[imaz]

Hi everyone

Recently I've made some discoveries about myself. I've been on hormones (estrogen etc) for more than 17 years and always considered myself transgendered MTF for want of a better definition.

I prefer girls, lesbians mainly as most of my friends are lesbian and I hang out with them and meet others. Sometimes fancy straight guys and admit I love it when we flirt without them realising it. Absolutely loathe it however when guys come onto me in a sexual way, guess I like the romantic stuff.

Anyway I always dress androgynous day to day and only get paranoid about clothes if I have to dress up to go out to a club or other. Can't dress up male, like wearing a suit and tie it just feels terribly wrong and I'm allergic to it.

Well I've got this hot bisexual girl who is really into me for being transgendered (as opposed to being male or female) at the moment and it's really brought my sex life back with a bang. I now know that's what I want, someone who desires me because I'm a mix. Took me years to realise it, but it's true.

Does this make me Androgyne? Sure as hell will piss off the binary lot no end!

[Nero]

If you feel you're androgyne, yes. Has nothing to do with the way your girlfriend sees you.

[imaz]

I like being stuck between the sexes I guess, used to hate it when I was younger but now really enjoy it.

[Nicky]

I guess the big question is do you feel like you are a woman?

If not then perhaps you could be. As Nero said, if you feel you are then that is the only requirement. You could also be a woman that desires a more androgynous body. There are not hard fast rules you need to follow.

Now you could identify simply as being transgendered as mentioned. Personally I consider myself  non-binary gendered, transgender, gender queer and androgyne.  Probably in that order, adrogyne being the name I give my non-binary gender.

[imaz]

I guess the big question is do you feel like you are a woman?

If not then perhaps you could be. As Nero said, if you feel you are then that is the only requirement. You could also be a woman that desires a more androgynous body. There are not hard fast rules you need to follow.

Now you could identify simply as being transgendered as mentioned. Personally I consider myself  non-binary gendered, transgender, gender queer and androgyne.  Probably in that order, adrogyne being the name I give my non-binary gender.

It's not that I feel I'm a woman, I know I'm with one without the minimum doubt. Sometimes I find it hard to accept, but at the end of the day one doesn't really have a choice in these matters, one just is (whatever one is).

BUT, I do like, as I said before, being between genders at the same time. I suspect this regards my sexuality due to my recent experiences but who knows...

[KYLYKaHYT]

A lot of what you say sounds familiar to me, imaz. Like yourself, I consider myself MtF transgender, I've been on hormones for 11 years and I present androgynously. I also enjoy being physically ambiguous as it very much fits my self image. I know a lot of people think you have to be one or the other, but I tend to identify as both a transwoman and an androgyne. It seems reasonable enough to me anyhow.

And yeah, my GF occasionally tells me I'm *exotic* and I have to admit that's kind of a turn on. I'm not really sure how I'd feel about somebody that I just met telling me they thought I was exotic because of my ->-bleeped-<-ism, there's a good chance it'd freak me out. But coming from the person who has been my best friend and life partner for almost 30 years it can sure get me going.   

[imaz]

Thanks KYLYKaHYT

It's really comforting to know that I'm not alone in this. I've a feminine physique but still like to present ambiguous, probably because I think it's the sexiest way!

[KYLYKaHYT]

It's comforting for me as well, imaz. I don't encounter many others who address their, um... gender stuff, this way.

[Nicky]

It's not that I feel I'm a woman, I know I'm with one without the minimum doubt.

In that case I don't think you could be an androgyne in terms of having a gender identity that is androgyne because you clearly identify as a woman.

(I wonder if there are any 'bigenders' out there who have a non-binary and a binary persona?)

[imaz]

It's comforting for me as well, imaz. I don't encounter many others who address their, um... gender stuff, this way.

Nice one, thanks
Post Merge: March 04, 2009, 07:56:17 PM

In that case I don't think you could be an androgyne in terms of having a gender identity that is androgyne because you clearly identify as a woman.

(I wonder if there are any 'bigenders' out there who have a non-binary and a binary persona?)

You are right, one can get easily confused by what is expected of one.

In the end there is no right or wrong way to be anything.

[Jaimey]

In the end there is no right or wrong way to be anything.

Exactly.