Genderqueer questions

[pausg]

Hi everyone,

This is my first post on the forum. I'm Pau, I'm 22 and I'm french so please, excuse the english mistakes!

So to make things short, I have never felt either like a girl nor like a boy. I have been strugling with this for years, trying to force myself to be alternately one or the other.
But for a few months, I have been feeling like it is ok for me not to choose between girl or boy, and not to fit in any boxes.
I now identify as genderqueer. I don't really like my female body, but I wouldn't want a fully male body either, so I just make my own mix of what I want to keep from each side, and try to "adjust" my body for the best.

I really hope you guys can give me some advice, and share your experiences with me, that would help!

And one more thing, which is not really relevant but which is something I am really struggling with these days : I have no idea what my sexual orientation is....

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[Janet_Girl]

Hi Pau,   

Welcome to our little family. Over 1900 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion. Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers.  Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now.  And it is always nice to have another member.   

Janet

[Eva Marie]

Welcome aboard!

Like you many of us are somewhere "in between" which is perfectly fine.

[Nicky]

Hey,

Nice to meet you. It is an interesting place to be in the inbetween.

I think the best teacher about sexuality is experience. Relax, explore, have fun. In the end it does not matter who you like to have sex and fall in love with as long as it meets your needs. It does not need to be a burden.

[imaz]

Welcome Pau, your English is excellent by the way

All sounds pretty normal to me. I would second what Nicky said in her post. Enjoy it, it's a great place to be in many ways.

[Shana A]

Welcome Pau, glad you've joined us here.

Z

[burgandy]

Welcome!!

You'll find that there's plenty of us here like you, Pau.  As far as sexual orientation goes, I'd say don't worry about it!  Like whomever you like!

I look forward to seeing you around.

~ Burgundy ~

[pausg]

Hi everyone!

Thanks for all the nice messages.

See you around the forum.

PS: about the sex thing, I'll try to relax and tell you where that goes!

[RebeccaFog]

Hi,

   As long as you live in a tolerant place, don't worry about the sexuality.  Just see who you are attracted to, or turned on by, as time goes on.

   I guess the same goes for the genderqueer aspect of yourself.  Do as you feel.  Don't let others try to define you.

[Jaimey]

Welcome!  I feel you on the sexuality thing.  I've decided that I'm panromantic.  That way I don't have to worry about choosing. 

[Kinkly]

welcome pau
it can be very confusing tring to find yourself when the labels don't fit.
not male not female.
Who you are attracted to doesn't matter if it doesn't fit the labels
some questions that helped me.
who are you attracted to?
why are you attracted to that person?
what do you want to do with who you are attracted to?
good luck it finding your self

[pausg]

Thanks everyone for the cherring up!
I am starting to feel good being "in the middle", but I realize that the more I show it, the more people are asking questions. Anyway, I guess when I manage to solve that sexual orientation thing, I'll be much better in my shoes!