what will i miss...

[mickie88]

because i'm so overly focused on my transition and absolutely nothing else, i've been repeatedly told i'm going to miss out on so much of my kids growing up by not being able to take part do to the fact i am a woman and would not have a penis. the only thing i have missed so far is a father/daughter dance for girl scouts because of the way i am(the permission slip said absolutely no females). i told my daughter i couldn't go to begin because it was a Saturday and i didn't get off till 7pm, exactly when it started, but everyone wants to twist it around and say that she said she didn't want to go because of the way i am. when she brought home the permission slip, she sure acted like she wanted to go with me, but yes it would have been totally weird for the girls that know me as her "aunt" and her GS leader also believes I am her "aunt". when i was in cub scouts for a very short period of time, i hated every minute of it and the only thing i ever did with my father was bake a cake, everything else i had no choice but to do it with my maternal parent, i finally got away from it.

can anyone enlighten me as to what else in my life that while my kids grow up that i would have to have a penis to be included for, because i'm completely drawing blanks??

[tekla]

I doubt if organs have much to do with it, but being overly focused on yourself might not leave much room to focus on others, and that could lead to missing things.

[mickie88]

i was being sarcastic Tekla, sorry that didn't come thru in my post. 

[myles]

WEll my son is convinced now that I am going to be a "dad" and not a mom, I will all of a sudden want to go fishing! ( I won't have a penis and I haven't heard that T brings on a sudden urge to go fishing). I think it's all fluid you won't miss out on anything you weren't intended to. Kids seem to be fine with it all and people are just trying to pull your chain, ignore them! Just think about all the "aunt" (haha) daughter things you will get to do now.
And I have a son who would really like to go fishing if anyones up for it!
Myles

[sd]

I'm curious what the GS would do with a girl who comes from lesbian parents.

[coolJ]

Hi Warrior Princess, the best thing you can do is love your daughter like the beautiful little princess she is while being yourself to her and not a false image like I've done. Even though I have horrible GD I dont let my girls know it and we have a blast together!!!!

[mickie88]

Warrior, yer kids are very young and you have a long way to go.

Can't have your cake and eat it too!

seriously if someone puts cake in front of me and tells me i can't eat it, well let's just say the Warrior Princess isn't going to be so cute and cuddly.

GS and lesbian parents, i don't think they care from what i've read, the leaders are trained to teach and lead the girls how to behave and act like women, whether they are gay, straight, bi, whatever, but of course that doesn't always pass on to the parents, right...lol. as long as they aren't being intimate in front of the younger girls, i doubt seeing any problems with it, but that's just me. i mean i am still young and stupid, have to be so i can be old and wise..lol 

[imaz]

If it's any comfort to you WP my child turned out OK in the end. He was 9 when I started and took it badly in his mid teens but he's fine now at 26 and I'm very close with him and his long term girlfriend. I'm sure it will be OK with you too.

[Janet_Girl]

As a divorced 'father' of four, I can say that it is up to you to be in your children's lives.  Because I was forced out of my kids lives I missed a lot.  But my children and I are stating to be in contact now and I am catching up with what happened in their lives.

Janet

[Ellieka]

Hi Mekayla

You and I have so many similarities its almost scary. I totally know where you coming from and how its feels. When we finally get the chance to be who we  are meant to be its next to impossible to focus on anything else.

I did this and I am really close to losing everything that is important to me. We get to feeling like time is our enemy and the chance to be the women we were meant to be is going to slip away for ever and it scares the hell out of us.

I had the exact situation come up with my two girls. They had a daddy daughter dance at their school and I have always taken them. but the last one was just after I came out to them and I told them that if they wanted me to take them I would go how ever they wanted me too. If they wanted to have daddy there as the man they knew then I would have gladly done that for them.

Why would I put my self through that? Because I love my children unconditional and their happiness and well being is more important then my own life. I want them to grow up knowing that I will do what ever is best for them and that my love knows no limits. When all was said and done they ended up going with their mothers fiancé because they didn't want to make me feel uncomfortable but I did take them dress shopping for the event and we had a blast.

The most important thing is for you to make sure your children and those you can't live with out know just how much you love them and be willing to make sacrifices for them, but also let them know that you have to be true to yourself.