I'm so sorry Lex broke up with you. I think it says a lot though that he still wants to remain friends with you. It shows that he values your relationship, even if he wants it to be different right now. He's probably worrying that figuring himself out during his transition could take awhile. Maybe he feels it's unfair for you to put your life on hold for him in case you could meet someone else in the meantime.
My situation with Hypatia was different in that we were friends while she was transitioning and only started dating afterward, but I think the process we went through is similar to what you and Lex are dealing with.
I've been in love with Hypatia since almost the moment I saw her. Before she came out to me. Before I knew I was lesbian. It took her a long time to trust that I wanted her as a woman. That was one aspect for us. The other was that her family was holding back her transition. She had a wife and children who were very opposed, and she held back for them for as long as she could. Once she was finally able to fully transition, we were able to start moving closer to being more than friends. Essentially though, I waited four years for her. It was hell for me, but I just kept being as supportive of a friend as I could be while she figured it out.
That's not to say that it will take Lex nearly that long to get to the point where he feels ready to be in a relationship. You're both young, so it will probably be somewhat easier (or at least quicker) for him to transition.
Whether or not you want to wait to see if he'll want to be in a relationship again is up to you. Speaking from experience, I would suggest not putting your life on hold in the meantime. You're
much younger than I and have much ahead of you. By all means, keep him in your life, but don't stop living your own. (Goodness but I sound old giving such advice.
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