The Enjoyability of Anal sex is not "solely" masculine or something that is "greater" for men than women. It differs amongst individuals and some individuals even claim to be able to reach orgasm via anal sex.
The thing about anal sex however is that it's grossly misrepresented in a lot of places.
If you know what you're doing, and have patience and care in mind, you can have enjoyable anal sex without pain, without discomfort, without "messes" and so on and so forth. It only hurts if you don't know what you're doing sort of thing.