ANAL SEX...ahem

[milliontoone]

Subject: Re: Female Squirting science:
"According to some laboratory tests, the fluid coming out during a
female ejaculation would be a substance with some similarities to male
semen in its composition, produced by the paraurethral glands or
Skene's glands, often called "female prostate" for its similitude in
placement, structure and, given the discovery of female ejaculation,
function, with the male prostate, the responsible of the production of
semen."

wow that is really interesting, so there  kind of is  a female prostate  then....the whole ejaculation thing would  be  well.....super cool  as well

[Osiris]

*draws a line between himself and the thread* Here it is. Now come and join me you know you want to.

[Jaimey]

*draws a line between himself and the thread* Here it is. Now come and join me you know you want to.

YAY! 

[Luc]

I don't know about a "female prostate", but anal sex is awesome. It was just okay before I was on T, but on T... let's just say that every sensation is multiplied by about 10 on the pleasure scale, so it works quite well.

From what I've read/heard, anal sex is pleasurable for women/female-bodied persons because the average sized penis hits the place on the anal wall that is by the g-spot... which is usually really difficult to access during vaginal intercourse. There also seem to be more nerve endings in the anus than the vagina, so I'm sure that helps.

As per female ejaculation, I've only been able to do that while on T. It usually only works with a combination of g-spot and clitoral stimulation... this is what I've read, anyway. Most people tend to equate the g-spot with the prostate.

SD

[placeholdername]

This is a fun thread.

For those interested (and really I think everyone should be ) here is an excellent book on the subject:

http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Anal-Sex-Women/dp/1573442216/ref=pd_sim_b_1/175-3003252-7029253

It's by a woman, for a woman (but also with info for men), so it leaves out a lot of the more common jaded perceptions people run into in this subject.  I haven't read all of my copy yet, but it seems to be filled with... interesting and practical information.

[Osiris]

There's also the classic video, bend over boyfriend. It can work for both men and women. Just good practical tips on relaxing and all that jazz.

[icontact]

Female ejaculation?

I can. I'm not on T. But I have to be really turned on.

[IanToxic]

It made me feel better knowing that I'm not the only guy that had pain only with "vaginal" stuff instead of anal haha maybe it's psychological like unconsciously going NO NO NO NOOOO! access denied! haha I dunno random thought

[JonasCarminis]

yea, psychological access denied is a pain in the ass.  literally.  you have to be relaxed physically and mentally for everything to work.

[IanToxic]

lol well luckily I'm gay! so hopefully that little female area will never come up in a sexual situation lol

[Aiden]

Yeh same...  pain in the vagina, but anal seems to be good.  though haven't had a partner yet to be sure.  Mostly self play arhm..  and think have gotten the ejaculation as well.  several times. 

[IanToxic]

lol well i have no idea about the ejaculation thing as i have never paid attention though something like that seems like it'd be hard to miss and as for the butt loving lol i only ever tried with a partner once and there is a difference between fingers and a penis or dildo soooo i could be wrong on the pain issue lol then again i'm about 99.9% sure that i could handle those things better anally then vaginally lol

[Miniar]

If your partner has patience, plenty of lubricant, and understands how the anus works, there will be no pain necessary.

[perfectisolation]

I don't know how you guys can do it.

I just can't touch anything. It's all been tainted by this cursed female body.
Is it just me?(Sorry to bring my negativity into this thread)

[Jaimey]

I don't know how you guys can do it.

I just can't touch anything. It's all been tainted by this cursed female body.
Is it just me?(Sorry to bring my negativity into this thread)

A lot of it has to do with acceptance.  If you can accept what you have and work with it, things are a lot easier.  There's no reason to make yourself feel bad.  Instead of thinking about what you don't have, think about all the great things that you do have.  It's all about attitude. 

We were born in the wrong bodies, BUT there's a lot more to a person than their body.  And you're definitely not alone.  I think just knowing others who are dealing with the same issues takes a big weight off.  I recommend that you start a journal where you write down nice things about yourself every day.  If you love yourself, other people will love you no matter what body you have.

[Yasuko]

never tried it... gomene.. 

[Mr. Fox]

It made me feel better knowing that I'm not the only guy that had pain only with "vaginal" stuff instead of anal haha maybe it's psychological like unconsciously going NO NO NO NOOOO! access denied! haha I dunno random thought

There is a really fascinating article on scarleteen about this.  Apparantly, there isn't actually any permanant vaginal stretching that happens the first time you have sex, and it doesn't have to hurt the first time.  However, usually the girl is nervous, and the muscles in her vagina literally reject the object entering.  However, usually couples ignore this pain, thinking it has to happen the first time, and just "push on through."

[IanToxic]

Awww maaaaan I have a pretty high pain tolerance but screeeeeeeew that! lol I don't see how anyone can "push on through" D:

[Osiris]

There is a really fascinating article on scarleteen about this.  Apparantly, there isn't actually any permanant vaginal stretching that happens the first time you have sex, and it doesn't have to hurt the first time.  However, usually the girl is nervous, and the muscles in her vagina literally reject the object entering.  However, usually couples ignore this pain, thinking it has to happen the first time, and just "push on through."

Yeah, see I've pushed through the pain thinkin I'd get use to it. Never happened so every time I have to try and relax, but it still hurts. -_-

[Kayden]

There is a really fascinating article on scarleteen about this.  Apparantly, there isn't actually any permanant vaginal stretching that happens the first time you have sex, and it doesn't have to hurt the first time.  However, usually the girl is nervous, and the muscles in her vagina literally reject the object entering.  However, usually couples ignore this pain, thinking it has to happen the first time, and just "push on through."

This seems to be true from my personal experiences, although there was quite a bit of pain the first time.  Once I told my boyfriend to slow down and let me relax and I did some deep breathing, it went a lot better. The pain was greatly decreased and I stopped clenching. (Clenching pretty much prevented entry... the muscles down there are stronger than you think!) The second time around there had been pretty much no stretch left from the first time, but the breaking the hymen business was over, which was helpful and it would be annoying if I had blood everywhere every time I used my "bonus hole".

I like how the ANAL SEX thread is talking about vaginal sex now.

A lot of it has to do with acceptance.  If you can accept what you have and work with it, things are a lot easier.  There's no reason to make yourself feel bad.  Instead of thinking about what you don't have, think about all the great things that you do have.  It's all about attitude.

This is also how I've been working through a lot of my dysphoria.  I wasn't able to do anything with myself for awhile.  Then I reassociated my bits with different words closer to male anatomy and learned to work with what I have because ... well I'm a horny jerk even though I haven't started T.  I only just recently was able to start using my "bonus hole" (sorry for the lewd term, but that's how I think of it).  It took a lot of trust from the other person I'm with.  I have a very concrete identity with him and I am quite sure it hasn't changed his perception of me. 

I still don't feel comfortable with having that piece of female anatomy, but at this point, I feel like if I was cursed with it, I might as well take advantage of it because I don't have what I want.  Also, I'm not always comfortable enough to do things of that nature and I still avoid it during sex when I just don't feel like using it.  Just because I've opened up that opportunity doesn't mean that my boyfriend gets access to it all the time.  Everyone has the right to take away something they've given sexually.  If you try it, and you don't want to do it after that, just be open with your partner about it.

And don't get me wrong, sometimes I still have sickening dysphoria that leads me to be very depressed.  I haven't escaped that magically, but I'm trying to enjoy life and my experiences with in it more.

Anyway, you can always PM me if you want to discuss the finer points of how I've gone through either the mental or physical processes in this post.  I don't mind helping another confused person out.