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Help, FTM????

Started by Lance, April 06, 2009, 10:21:21 PM

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Lance


I'm a 25 y/o female.  That doesn't relate "in my head" as being female. But its only been the past 2 years i feel that way. Before that i was comf being a lesbian. Now i don't really relate to women at all, i cant wear womens clothes, i dont think of myself as a woman sexually, and in my sick mind i think of myself as a "boy." I hate when people realize that im really a girl and love when they think that im a boy but am so uncomf with life right now all together. ive been with my g/f for 6 years and she is fine with everything but i have yet to really talk to anyone but her about this. my best friends always joke in a loving way and call me a ->-bleeped-<- (which i kinda feel like i really am) why dont i relate to women? i didn't really always feel like i was born the wrong sex but when i was younger i always pretended i was a boy and had my own "tom boy clubs" i guess labels don't matter. and like my gf said its not always black and white, and everything in between doesn't matter. i guess id just like to talk to someone that understands. i have plenty of friends just not any that feel the same as i do...
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myles

Welcome Lance, first off I don't think your "mind is sick", but I am not a doc so. You sound like me (lesbian, tomboy so on) but I'm 39 and been with my gf for 17 years and am just now transitioning. This is a great place for support go ahead and ask questions, check out the other area. Again Welcome!
Myles
"A life lived in fear is a life half lived"
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kody2011

Hey Lance!! Myles basically summed it all up. I'm the same way, but I'm just about to be 20. It's nice that you found us and are able to ask questions and show your feelings. Keep your chin up!!!
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sneakersjay

I'm 48, spent my whole life trying to live as a girl, when I really knew on some level that I was born male.  Transitioned last year and haven't looked back!

A great gender therapist can help you out...start there.  And we're here also!


Jay


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Jay

Hey Lance,

Welcome to Susans :)

Like the other Jay said research for a gender therapist in your area.

Jay


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Jaimey

I've always thought of myself as a boy too, so you aren't alone and your mind definitely isn't sick! 

The best thing you can do is to figure out what will make you happy and go for it!  In my case, I don't feel the need to transistion, but I do want to present as an androgynous male and I'm planning on changing my name to a male one.  Other people do feel the need to transition and that's what they do.  It's all about YOUR HAPPINESS!
If curiosity really killed the cat, I'd already be dead. :laugh:

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these." GWC
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