Anyone know?? Or having the same debate?

[Aussie Jay]

I posted this in another topic so sorry if you have read it but I would really like to know!! Bottom surgery for me at least is a few years away but it's never too early to start planning!
So a big debate in my head sounds like this...
Meta - yeah small but MINE, the right tissue doing what it does getting hard etc as a bio guys does, possible damage to feeling but less likely than with phallo, but might not be enough for penetration and may still need that sort of help in the bedroom, possibly no bulge in pants and very different from male or female genitalia
Phallo - 'normal' size, need implant to get hard, easy penetration, scars on other body parts depending on procedure, unsure of resulting feeling, bulge in pants, possible ugly - seems to be an aesthetically hit or miss surgery, male genitalia
My questions are:
•   Does it feel like 'nothing'/just a bit of skin having sex with a phallo?? Anyone know/read/been told what the feeling is like with a phallo??
•   Is it like after I please my partner I need to attend to the little guy - still present?? - another way??
•   Do you embrace the fact that your genitals will look completely different to male or female?? Or do you just want the male genitalia you should have had all along??
•   Will a penis really complete YOU??
I know the last one is really subjective. I was just wondering what others thought. I mean I know it doesn't make you a man to have one or less of a man to not – just curious. I have quite a bit of dysphoria with that area and suppose am looking for guys with similar thoughts. I for one want a penis – I'm just not sure which way I eventually want to go.
Thanks in advance,
Jay

[sneakersjay]

I'm having meta/urethral hookup/implants done on July 5 by Dr. Miro in Belgrade.

For me it boiled down to this:

My biggest dysphoria has been lack of a penis.  I have had good growth downstairs, and I want to make the most of it.  I know I won't be satisfied unless I have a penis, and a penis that works.  That means meta and not phallo.  I know it will be small, but it will be ME.  It will function like the penis it was supposed to be.  I will then join the ranks of other men with small penises.  I won't be a trans-guy with different downstairs junk (I don't ID as trans) but a guy with a small dick.  I will be happy with that.

Yes, I may still need help in the bedroom with a prosthetic or extender.  I'm cool with that.  But I want my junk to be MY junk.

I also know for me I won't be happy unless I can pee through it also.  And I want the vag gone.

Most of the guys I have talked to who have had the procedure I'm having report very good results with good sensation.  I am preparing for the worst, but I think a dick with less feeling will be better than what I have now. 

Jay

[Aussie Jay]

Thanks Jay - and good luck with the surgery. I sure hope it is everything you want it to be.
I totally agree with the whole I want it to be mine mentality. And I too will not be happy unless I have a penis. I do lean towards wanting the meta. I too do not want anything that shouldn't be there to remain. Thanks for putting it in perspective too - not different from female and male genitalia, just another guy with a small dick.
Cheers

[H205]

I'm quite curious to know about the sensations or lack of with Phallo.

[Snowdoggy]

I know this is an old topic now but I would like to add to it having just gone through the first stage of phalloplasty and having talked to a few men who have already finalized it.

Primarily I can not answer the question about the feeling in it during intercourse as it is too early in my surgery and at the moment I have no feeling in it all which at this stage is probably merciful 

As far as what you were asking about sensation. The op I have had, from the forearm (and other guys I am in contact with before my op), they re-connect one of the (sorry about using these terms but we could beat about the bush forever otherwise) clitoris into the penis base and also some nerves are removed from the forearm so feeling in the phallus should be fairly good.

I can even now what-do-you-noodle so that is good. I was worried about losing that beforehand 

One of my main "wants" was to be able to stand to pee and that is primarily why I am having this procedure. I can't do that yet until the next op.

One thing I have never seen mentioned on any trans site is how (if it does) it may affect your movement and everyday life.

It does... your brain knows how much gap to leave when squeezing through a gap and I have found since the op it does not alllow for my winky. Not great when you can't feel it. Can do a lot of damage.

A few things I would like to say re phallo...

I have only been through the first stage so far and one thing that I would like to tell you is that it is incredible how good it feels to look in the mirror down there if you get my gist. I didn't think after losing my forearm skin with the first op and before the second stage when you can STP I would feel like I had gained anything but it is a great feeling to not have to worry about the lack of bulge anymore.

You need support through the many operational stages. It's not like chest surgery but you will be more mobile than you think afterwards.

It sticks to the top of your leg a lot when it gets hot and sweaty down there 

John
Post Merge: April 08, 2010, 10:38:51 PM

I know this is an old topic now but I would like to add to it having just gone through the first stage of phalloplasty and having talked to a few men who have already finalized it.

Primarily I can not answer the question about the feeling in it during intercourse as it is too early in my surgery and at the moment I have no feeling in it all which at this stage is probably merciful 

As far as what you were asking about sensation. The op I have had, from the forearm (and other guys I am in contact with before my op), they re-connect one of the (sorry about using these terms but we could beat about the bush forever otherwise) clitoris into the penis base and also some nerves are removed from the forearm so feeling in the phallus should be fairly good.

I can even now "what-do-you-noodle" so that is good. I was worried about losing that beforehand 

One of my main "wants" was to be able to stand to pee and that is primarily why I am having this procedure. I can't do that yet until the next op.

One thing I have never seen mentioned on any trans site is how (if it does) it may affect your movement and everyday life.

It does... your brain knows how much gap to leave when squeezing through a gap and I have found since the op it does not alllow for my winky. Not great when you can't feel it. Can do a lot of damage.

A few things I would like to say re phallo...

I have only been through the first stage so far and one thing that I would like to tell you is that it is incredible how good it feels to look in the mirror down there if you get my gist. I didn't think after losing my forearm skin with the first op and before the second stage when you can STP I would feel like I had gained anything but it is a great feeling to not have to worry about the lack of bulge anymore.

You need support through the many operational stages. It's not like chest surgery but you will be more mobile than you think afterwards.

It sticks to the top of your leg a lot when it gets hot and sweaty down there 

John