I'm leaving my wife today....

[cindybc]

Quite agree Kristi, For me I was looking for a loving partner and looking to have a family. But it was because of who I am that I attracted the negative and abusive type. They knew they could get away with it and took full advantage of it. As much as I wish I had transitioned at a younger age it was not meant to be, but at least I had no dependents under my roof when I began my transitioning journey.

However no transition goes without it's bumps, we do loose people and things as we go. You may be lucky if you get to keep your suspender so you won't loose your panties. But things can be replaced and we do make new friends and life goes on.

Cindy

[Nikki]

That's heartwrenching. Sorry 'bout your split. Keep your chin up, Babe.

[Naturally Blonde]

Yeah I know it is somewhat harsh to say, but really you can't blame the wife (nobody here to blame except for society and poor judgment), but it would be a different story if she knew of this and she still went along with the marriage. But she didn't have a clue, and so one day many years later her man starts wearing wigs and make up, and saying he is now a woman... That's shocking, and means a failure of marriage, since unless your bi you always like men. I am thinking he married only for himself to say that he is straight, or at least 'normal' in the eyes of society and he love her like he would a best friend (not a wife). Isn't that just a bit selfish?

The true victim here is the wife... and I know that is tough to say since being a transsexual is hard. But it's one thing to be a transsexual, and another thing to drag someone through many years to end up like this.

It's too late to go to the past, and the only thing now would be just to do what you're planning to do and fix it, but consider your wife... can't blame her.

I agree again Paulina. Very rarely is the point of view of the poor wife taken into consideration. I still find it hard for someone to suddenly come out and say there are transsexual after years of marriage as a normal hetrosexual man.