Just wondering... what's wrong with saying "he"? Has any reason been given for avoiding pronouns? Regardless, I believe in always going by the wishes expressed by the person in question. In such cases, I restructure my syntax to function without any pronouns. The various gender-neutral pronouns that have been proposed just look like deformed English to me; aesthetically, I haven't managed to feel comfortable with them. If someone* requests no pronouns at all, I would take that to really mean none at all, not even the gender-neutral inventions.
*I guess the word
someone is a pronoun too, but it seems to slip past unnoticed without triggering any gender matters.
Quote from: Starr on March 13, 2009, 09:59:35 PMPart of me can understand why it's hard for someone to adapt at first to learning their partner is trans. But after a period of adjustment, unless you are absolutely certain that you can't change your sexuality, I don't know why more partners don't accept it. The person they fell in love with is still the same. All the parts that really matter anyway. 
When someone gives more value to rigid social structures than to the persons themselves... it's a problem. When this is done to me, I feel I'm treated not as a person but as an object, nothing but an inanimate cog in the social machinery. This is how I define my idea of humanism. People, real people with hearts and feelings, matter more than structural rules.
