It ain't and won't ever be easy being trans. I know that sounds messed up but it is true. Even if Trans was totally accepted and we were accepted as MTF or FTM or nonbinary, it would still be hard as hell. Paranoia is usually in your own mind and that is my favorite song from Black Sabbath. Stress on the other hand is just a part of life and you will always have to deal with stress. You either make it positive or negative.
So a little about me? I always knew I was different. I had to change schools in the eighth grade when starting puberty. I could not take gym class or what we called PE because I had boobs. When I did change schools then I got to be F instead of M and only the admin knew it. I got busted when I was 13 wearing a training bra and panties when my mom and dad came home too early. That was a fiasco for sure.
I told them that I am a girl and they told me no I wasn't. Then I explained a lot of
>-bleeped-< to them and they kind of understood?
Maybe, maybe not but at least they let me be. And they paid a lot of money changing schools from public to private so I thank them for that. And yes my real name is non gender pretty much.
Maybe a thousand years in the future being trans will not be so taboo. And even though now it is way easier than it was in my youth, it will never be easy. One reason is that and a quote from the movie Kindergarten Cop, "Boys have a penis and girls have a vagina". Sadly that is true to how society views people.
I challenge everyone to see in others deeper than what they person appears to be. It sounds like BS but you can never judge a person. Even hardcore Christians that think we are abominations
. I know first hand.
People in general are inherently good liars. They may hate you in public but are sexually attracted to you in private.
Hell they may even fall in love with you in private and can pass.
So stop feeling all the stress. Be the best man you can be and it isn't about bulk and muscles but psychology and how you treat a woman. If you can pass you are lucky.
Why so paranoid? I mean I don't do the deal on the first date and it takes me a while and then slowly tell them in my own way. But yeah. It will always be scary to tell someone and I have and some did not care and some said, "thanks but no thanks."
But this is for everyone young and old. It will never be easy to be trans because the hardest one that has to accept it is ourselves.
I hope a lot of this that I wrote makes sense.