So the good news is that the little one is saying "mommy" all the time now and not "daddy" and it seems to make her happy. Now that she is happy like 85% of my stress is gone and I no longer feel guilty about correcting her; in fact twice she corrected herself and giggled about it, no tantrums!!! Wohoo!!!
The bad news is that we have to go back to court because someone keeps breaking the court order. Fun. Fun. Ahhhh.